Ruffa to Yilmaz: "You have to promise me that you will change..."

"I will say now that Mother Annabelle is not the materialistic relative that I was referring to. That relative knows who he or she is. I will tell the public who it is when I come to Manila to fetch my family," clarified Yilmaz Bektas in his latest statement issued to Startalk.

In an interview with The Buzz, Ruffa Gutierrez seconded her husband's explanation. "I think we jumped into conclusions. Wala namang sinabi si Yilmaz na si Mommy ‘yong materialistic relative. Inako na ni Mommy ‘yong kasalanan na siya ‘yon... Hindi [daw] si Mommy [‘yong tinutukoy ni Yilmaz]. Siguro si Yilmaz lang ang makakapagsabi kung sino ‘yon," said Ruffa.

Ruffa answered some points that her husband, Yilmaz, raised about her parents, Annabelle Rama and Eddie Gutierrez, and about trying to fix the marriage.

ENVY. "Some of the people surrounding Ruffa are just jealous because she is beautiful, she has a nice life, she is so famous. I never intend to stop her from mingling or socializing or going out. I'm just trying to protect her from some people," claimed Yilmaz.

Ruffa reacted, "Am I [beautiful]? Thank you! At least napansin niyang maganda pala ako. You know Yilmaz used to say, ‘Ruffa, I trust you but I don't trust the world.' Kasi kung sa akin lang, mabait daw akong tao, mabait akong babae, I'm a good wife, I'm a good mother... But it's the people in the world that he doesn't trust."

She added, "That's just the way Yilmaz is, e. You know when he loves and when he speaks, he's very deep."

IN LOVE AND WAR. "Right now, it looks like she doesn't want to see me running behind her. But only until she tells me she doesn't want me or doesn't love me anymore that I'm going to move on with my life. Then, I'll pray to God to give her happiness she deserves," said the Turkish businessman.

Ruffa explained, "You know what, I think love is not the issue here, e. It's iyong pagiging babae ko, ‘yong self-respect ko as a woman. You know, I feel that I have to keep my dignity. And a lot of people know na rin what happened in the last few months. I think it's Yilmaz's turn now to make amends with my family, to speak to me, to come and exert the extra effort."

Ruffa noted, "You know what, you only realize that you love somebody 'pag nakikita mo na unti-unti ng nawawala sa iyo ‘yong tao na iyon. So I think that's what he's realizing right now, na nakikita niyang unti-unti na akong nawawala sa kaniya and so he's trying to do everything to win me back."

KEEPING PROMISES. In his statement, Yilmaz stressed that he wanted his family back: "If this has to end, I want a good end. But if we still want to keep this marriage, we better start working on it now before too much damage is made. I obviously prefer to save our marriage."

Ruffa asserted, "Well, he should start working on it. I'm just here waiting. He keeps saying that he's coming, he's coming... In fairness to him, he really wants come, he's around Asia right now, but I guess, you know, he's afraid of the press or he's afraid of what could happen when he's here."

She swore that she is not going back to Istanbul.

"Right now, I stand firm on my decision. Let's see sa pag-uusap namin—I'm sure one day mag-uusap kami, maghaharap kami. Kailangan namin pag-usapan tungkol sa mga bata, tungkol sa mangyayari sa amin. And if ever there will be an ending, I want it also to be a good ending. I don't want it to be an ugly bad ending," said Ruffa.

The former Miss World 2nd Princess said that she is not closing doors on her relationship with her husband of four years and father of her two daughters Lorîn and Venice.

"Alam mo, ayokong lagyan ng period. Ayokong lagyan ng tuldok. Kagaya ng sinabi ng Mommy ko, ‘Lagyan mo na ng tuldok, Ruffa.' But my Mom is not me. As of now, you know we have two kids, iniisip ko pa rin ‘yon, ‘Magbabago pa ba kaya si Yilmaz?' I'm now in the stage—I can't say that I've moved on or I'm moving on. I'm in the stage where I'm still the woman in the middle of the storm," she disclosed.

She has this message for her husband: "Yilmaz, if you're watching right now, you know whatever it is that you're promising, whatever it is that you're saying, do it. Show us and promise me—actually, you have to promise my Mom and Dad—that you will change and that you will take care of me, you will love me. Because my Mom and my Dad love me. I'm the only girl. Noong ibinigay nila ako sa iyo, you know they expected that you will take care of me. And when I came back and they realized that you didn't take care of me, siyempre they got really upset. So I think you need to speak to my Mom and my Dad, and you need to speak to me. We'll see what happens."

HIATUS. Ruffa announced, "Tomorrow [May 21], I'm going away and I'll be far, far away for two weeks. Just to clear my mind. You know now, I can't really think because I'm surrounded by all this mess. Everyday, somebody writes about me in the papers. Andaming nagsisitsit. Andaming nakikialam. I think me and my kids are going away tomorrow..."

Ruffa clarified that she is not going to Turkey. She also said that her "Lovey" knows where she is going and that she is open to seeing him.