Punto por punto ay inilahad ni Kris Aquino ang kanyang panig at bersiyon ng istorya sa kinakaharap niyang malaking kontrobersiya ngayon habang kausap ang co-host na si Boy Abunda sa kanilang programang The Buzz kahapon, January 17.
Kamakailan ay naging laman ulit ng mga balita ang tungkol sa isa na namang kaganapan na nagpayanig sa kanilang relasyon ng asawa niyang basketball player na si James Yap. Matatandaang una nang nagulo ito noong maugnay si James sa isang empleyado ng Belo Medical Clinic. Namatay nang kusa ang kontrobersiya dahil pinili ni Kris na ayusin ang kanilang pagsasama ni James.
Pero simula nitong nagdaang linggo ay muli nahaharap sa panibagong pagsubok ang pagsasama ng mag-asawa. Naging malaking balita ang ginawang pagsugod diumano ni Kris at pagkumpronta sa isang babaeng nangangalang Mayen Austria, isang fan at kaibigan daw ni James at ng PBA team nitong Purefoods Tender Juicy Giants. Halos magkapitbahay lang sila sa Valle Verde 2, Pasig, dalawang kalye lang daw ang layo ng mga bahay nila. (CLICK HERE to read related story.)
Ayon kay Kris, kinausap muna niya ang kanyang mga kapatid bago niya ginawa ang pagsasalita sa The Buzz.
"I had to discuss all of this with my family in depth before I face all of you," simula niya. "Nakiusap po nang mahinahon ang mga kapatid ko na mag-ingat ako sa mga pananalita ko and just to stick to the facts. So, even before I came here sa dressing room, my sister Pinky said nagsisimba siya ulit ngayon para ipagdasal ako."
At sinimulan ni Kris ang pagsisiwalat ng kanyang damdamin sa pamamagitan ng pagsasabi ng kanyang karapatan bilang asawa ni James Yap.
"Boy, let me start. Marami po na siyempre yung mga gustong mang-away o manggulo sinasabi, 'Ang kitid naman ng utak ni Kris! Nakalimutan na ba niya ang kanyang nakaraan?' Simple lang po ang sasabihin ko sa inyo. Kung anuman ang nakaraan ko, noong July 10, 2005 pinakasalan ako ni James Yap. For whatever I may have gone through in my life, alam yun ni James Yap. At pinakasalan niya ako at ibinigay niya ang kanyang pangalan sa akin. Ngayon, sa ilalim po ng batas... at siguro na rin sa pagbibigay pahintulot ni James, may karapatan ako bilang asawa niya. Na kung anuman po ang mga pinagdaanan ko dati, past is past, and at present I happen to be Mrs. James Yap. That's the first."
THE SOURCE OF THE PROBLEM. Detalyado namang isinalaysay ni Kris ang pinagsimulan ng problema kaugnay ng pagpunta niya sa bahay ng mga Austria.
"Point number two, I now speak to all the wives listening. Nagla-lunch kami ng asawa ko. I was on call, may taping ako ng Kung Tayo'y Magkakalayo. Kaya lang po na-delay nang na-delay. So, at 2 p.m. noong umuwi si James from practice, we were having lunch, magkatapat ganyan. So, meaning to say po, we still cohabit. We still live in one roof.
"Sinagot ni James ang telepono... Again, I will understand James when he told me na, 'Alam mo kung may itinatago ako sa iyo, hindi ko naman siguro sasagutin ang phone in your presence.' I heard a girl crying. Magkatapat kayo, minsan may maaaninag ka talaga doon sa conversation lalo na kung nakikinig ka, di ba? Kasi it was quiet and I could hear a voice very clearly saying, 'James, tell me what's wrong with me? Ginawa ko naman na ang lahat.' And then, ang sinagot po ng asawa ko, 'Alam mo, kung ayaw sa iyo, huwag mong ipagpilitan ang sarili mo.' And then I heard more crying. Until... James could see, kasi ganyan, di ba? [inilalarawan ni Kris ang posisyon nilang mag-asawa]. Ang kilay ko po umaabot na sa kisame namin. So, sinabi ni James, 'Alam mo, mamaya na lang tayo mag-usap.'"
At hindi na nga napigilan ni Kris na mag-usisa kay James tungkol sa babaeng caller.
"So, nagtanong po ako, 'Babe, what's that?' Ganun na ang tono ko. 'Si Mayen!' Sabi ko, 'O, what does she want with you?' Okay, dati po nag-o-order kami ng cupcakes at mga cookies sa kanila. Pero through phone lang yan. I didn't know how she looks, okay.
"And then I said, 'Is she crying over you? What's happening?' Tapos ang sinabi ni James sa akin, 'No, ang sinabi niya, iniwan daw siya ng boyfriend niya for another girl kaya iyak siya nang iyak.' Sabi ko, 'Friend mo yung guy?' Hindi. Sabi ko, 'Ano ang pangalan nung lalaki?' Some Cabahug. That was the last name na binanggit. Sabi ko, 'O, kung hindi mo kaibigan, bakit ikaw ang iniiyakan?' And sinabi niya, 'Hindi ko nga alam, e.'
WANTED TO CONFRONT MAYEN. Dito na nagsimulang mairita si Kris hanggang sa maisip nga niyang gusto niyang puntahan ang bahay ni Mayen.
"Alam mo, parang nababastos ako... 'Are you telling me the truth ba talaga na may boyfriend iyan na iniiyakan? Baka naman obsessed iyan sa iyo?' So, I told James, 'Anyway, they live two streets away. Gusto ko siya puntahan para naman makita niya that I'm a real person at nababastos ako sa ginagawa niya. Kasi the whole time na nag-away tayong dalawa bago mag-Pasko, umalis ka dito sa bahay na ito, and yet wala akong pinagsabihan except my closest family. In the merely five years of our marriage, all the time na nagkagulo tayong dalawa, wala akong lalaking iniyakan.' Of course, I'm not counting you as lalaki, you get it [sabi niya kay Boy]?
We dont need to drag Kris past dito kung anuman nagawa nya noon,what's important is this time she's trying to make things better lalo na sa family life nya.
Mayen said buti nalang hndi xa nag overdose duhhh..hndi ka nman inano,u were just confronted becoz of ur wrong doing why do u have to react that way?nakakatawa ka neng..
Huwag na din idamay c Noy for sure nman naging kuya talaga xa kay Kris at hndi xa kasali sa marital problems nito,dahil ba kris confronted Mayen people started to say na now they know whom to vote?etc etc..ano nman knalaman ni noy don?hellooo pipol..makikitid lang ang utak ng mga nagsabi nyan..
destroying their marriage - wala iyan as you have to depend on gut and instinct. Tama ang sabi ni brad_peet earlier - when something does not add up - ASK your spouse immediately.Dont wait for things to get worse - nip it in the bud ASAP.
The worst thing that a wife can encounter is for her husband to have a determined mistress. This happens when fame and wealth may be the direct benefits of the union. Marami niyan ngayon - and I hope the likes of Jinkee would stop being complacent and do something soon.
Jinkee gayahin mo si Kris - wala kang dapat ikabahala as you are the legal wife.
And Kris - make sure you and James are on the same page as far as your priorities are concerned. This whole drama would have gone under the radar had the other party not contact the media. Now, I wonder what were they thinking?
...should Estrada et al be given the keys back to the palace. Everyone connected with Erap - from his social secretaries- they all ended up being millionaires with mansions in the Philippines and overseas and I know they know whom they are.
On the personal side of things naman - expect the moral corruption of our nation to reach an all time high if the likes of Luisa Loy Ejercito again becomes the First Lady. The type of wife Loy Ejercito is and has been a dream for philandering husbands like Erap. She and Lani Mercado came from the same factory - of just accepting all the illegitimate children and mistresses that their husbands have decided to be part of their lives. These are the women who are idolized by non-confrontational wives who would rather die in pain and humiliation being the legal wife than fight for the marriage and confront anyone who dare step on their territory. Kahit gaano pa kataas ang pinag-aralan ng babae - when it comes to anyone trying to destroy their
Heaven help the Philippines talaga pag ibinalik si Erap sa Malacanang. I know out of topic ito but since they have dragged Noynoy into the forum over the personal issues Kris is having - I think it is but fair to let people realize that the damage if at all Kris will have on the presidency should another marriage drama with James transpire is far less than what Erap would cause the country. Erap was pardoned and for you to have been pardoned - it clearly means you were convicted for a crime. Erap was guilty of corruption and plunder. Kaya I understand the outburst that the lawyer had during the Comelec hearing allowing him to run again...Tama ang sabi niya - lahat kayo mga magnanakaw...
And for this - the lawyer was held in contempt for 2 weeks. If Erap wins- I think the country will be better off with a civil war - so that people can apply as asylum seekers as I cannot see any hope or respect from the international community for our country should Estrada et al be give
No one can say, Mayen is exposed by others to ridicule or contempt. Dahil si Mayen na mismo ang nag expose sa sarili niya, by distributing the text messages that reached the press people, and by allowing herself to be interviewed. Mayen Austria has as much access as Kris now with the press. Kaya ang threat na libel, mahihirapan na si Mayen Austria na gamitin iyon.
in western societies, liberal societies iyon ha, pag si misis nakakita o nakaramdam ng crossing the lines by another woman sa territory niya, hindi sila nangingiming i-assert ang rights nila, and confront the trespasser. hindi lang siguro sanay ang mga Pinoy sa mga assertive woman. the wife who is reticent will be taken advantage of by others. kung quiet ka lang, others may think, they can get away with anything. stand your ground, Misis, and speak up. try to be calm though, and choose your words carefully. use your INSIDE VOICE, do not shout. the priest and nuns, even the uncle of Mayen can not categorically say that Kris raised her voice. even the kapitbahay's maid did not see any commotion or hear any sigawan. the most the maid of the Austria can say is MATARAY si Kris. Mataray, frank, direct to the point. Wala nang paliguy ligoy pa.
gt;gt; Hindi naman si noynoy ang bobotohin ng mga tao eh. Ang mga magulang nya.
uhm, may I remind you na si MAyen Austria ang nag sent ng group message sa press people regarding the incident. It was mayen who started it all not Kris.
dagdagan mo pa yung Nancy Carvajal na talagang pina-front page ang news sa Inquirer. haaayyy naku.
sa mga misis o gf diyan, ang babae ay known for their 6th sense. Use it. gut instinct. intuition. pag may paliwanag ang mister nyo o bf, at di kayo nakuntento, sabi nga ni martin nievera, then do your own research. pag nalulong na ang lalaki sa other woman, mahirap nang paglayuin iyon. at kayong mga misis, o gf, ay walang kasalanan roon. hindi rin ibig sabihin na mahina ang pagsasama. may mga tao lang, usually ang lalaki iyon, kung makakalusot, magpapalusot. nipping it in the bud, before the other relationship has a chance to grow deeper, is better, than thinking about your pride. Example, si Jinkee hindi as ASSERTIVE as Kris, kaya hindi niya napigilan ang pag grow ng pagiging BFF nina Manny at Krista. Nasaan si Krista ngayon? Nasaan si Manny? Pareho ba silang nasa US? Nasaan si Jinkee? Ang ginawa ni Kris, ay pagiging ASSERTIVE sa karapatan niya bilang misis. Kahit sa western society, liberal na sila dapat, pero pag si misis nakakita ng crossing of the lines na by another woman, t
Maige ring nag apologize si Kris sa mother ni Mayen. As compared naman kay Marlene Aguilar Pollard, hindi naman masisisi siguro si Mrs. Austria sa pinag gagawa ng anak na malamang ay hindi naman alam ni Mrs. Austria. Si Marlene, tinakas ang anak, para hindi panagutan ang pagkamatay sa car accident ng isang government official noong 2004. At recently naman, tinago ni Marlene si Jason Ivler para hindi mapanagutan ang pagpatay niya sa isa pang binata. Kung nabalita sa news, malamang alam ni Marlene iyon, pero patuloy pa rin niyang pinagtatakpan ang anak.
ang intent niya ay irrelevant. It is the effect that matters. Pinalala pa ni Mayen, with the text she sent out, na pati si Noynoy ay dinadamay. Mayen's CHEMICAL DEPRESSION, o Depression caused by Chemical Imbalance is not a license to hurt others.
oh yeah diff. agreed. that's one of the things I have been trying to say, that everyone is responsible for their own actions. they did their own part, everyone made their share with the whole incident. Like I said before, any girl is not that quot;dingdongquot; not to realize that what Mayen did was absolutely wrong and we all can agree to that. But James, Mayen, and Kris should be held accountable with flare up of the whole ordeal... so now the latest it they're back together... after all there was not really a mistress after all....
i agree. She could have dealt with it differently. Siguro kung si Josh ang inaaway away ng kapitbahay nila, there. Kausapin ang parents coz kids are just kids and pwedeng hindi kaya ni Josh ipagtanggol ang sarili nya.
But it's different in this case kasi adults nman ang involved. Kahit ilang beses pa nyang puntahan yung girl, the bad news is, eh may number yung girl eh at ok lang kay James na nagco confide yung girl. Who knows what else they do aside from talking on the phone pag wla siya. Who knows kung marami pang Mayen dyan pero itong Mayen nato lang ang alam nya.
So her only option is to talk to her husband and maybe say hello? we're married, remember? maraming girlalu dyan but you're not meant to entertain 'em remember?