“Kung gusto mong tanggapin ka, marami kang kinikilos na hindi naman pupwede…they cannot understand e."
THINK ABOUT THE FATHERS. Recounting his own personal experience, Arnell said he can understand where other people are coming from, particularly, his own father.
“Usually, we tend to be dramatic about our situation e. Pero naisip ba natin na, kanino [ito] ikukwento ng tatay mo, di ba?
“Alangan namang ikwento niya dun sa mga kapitbahay na yung binata niya, bakla. Eto tayong mga bakla, maya’t-maya, anytime, we can call up our friends, talk about it, mag-iiyak ka d'yan...
“You miss the point na pano yung tatay mo, kanino niya ikukwento yun? Mas siya yung nahihirapan e.”
LEGAL AND BINDING. Arnell went on to explain that marriage is legally binding and therefore, more complicated than a piece of paper.
“Same-sex marriage, alam mo, eto, again, it’s a very…we’re only looking at the emotional side of getting married.
“Have you ever thought about the bond that you’re getting into if you get married? The legality? Ay, nakakaloka magpakasal ah. And ako, kasal ako," Arnell revealed.
Arnell was married to Frannie, with whom he has a daughter, Sophia. They separated in 2004.
WHAT IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND? “Kaya ako if I have a friend contemplating marriage, I would warn him…na…mga bakla ang lalandi natin ah…Papano kung ayaw mo na? Nakakaanim na buwan ka [tapos], ayaw mo na?
“This is going to be another issue. Bakit ka papasok sa isang kontrata na napakahirap labasan?…Nakakapagpalabas ka ng madali, bakit ka papasok sa ganyan?" Arnell continued.
“Ang hirap-hirap maghiwalay. At alam natin yan na mga bakla, 'Day, ang hirap na natin bumuo ng relasyon pag tapos ng tatlong buwan.
“Papano pag inapi ka, makasuhan ka na. Ako, I’ve been living with a partner for nine years.
“But why will you punish yourself with a contract na hindi mo malalabasan as easily as hindi ka kasal?
“Kaya nga. Bakit mo gugustuhin yun, kunwari ang type mo lang naman yung title…mahirap. I’m telling you, I’m telling you. Don’t even venture.