Marriage before sex or sex before marriage?
Lovi Poe’s character, Vivien Paredes, in The Bride and the Lover, delivers a striking line in the trailer: “I can’t believe I was stupid enough to actually believe in that ‘No sex before marriage’ thing!”
In the story, Vivien, the prim and proper kind of lady, is cheated on by her groom (Paulo Avelino) with her best friend (Jennylyn Mercado). While The Bride and The Lover has yet to premiere in cinemas on May 1, the movie trailer gives away a portion of the plot where Vivien undergoes a radical change of character after the incident. She transforms into a liberated woman who engages in casual sex.
At the press conference held last Wednesday, April 24, at the Imperial Suites in Quezon City, several intriguing questions was asked for all cast members:
Do they believe in engaging in pre-marital sex, an act that the teachings of the Catholic faith deems immoral? Or do they take the pro-choice stance which leaves the judgment to an individual?
Ahron Villaflor was the first star to answer the question. His character is the guy whom Vivien meets at a bar and whom she eventually engages casual sex with.
While he initially stated his ambivalence, the 25-year-old character actor said that sometimes two people in a relationship cannot help but give in to each other.
“Kumbaga, 2013 na tayo and talagang minsan hindi natin maiiwasan na, alam mo yun, nakakapag-sex kayo and then magkaka-baby and then [you get] married.”
Ahron said that ideally, he would rather get married first than engage in premarital sex: “Pero siyempre, ako personally, magpapakasal muna ako… ikakasal ako sa babaeng mahal ko.”
In conclusion, the actor said that virginity is not an issue for him. He would rather end up with the woman he truly loves and loves him back.
Magic 89.9 DJ Carla Dunareanu, who is cast as the best friend of Lovi’s and Jennylyn’s characters, stated her pro-choice stand.
She articulated, “I think everyone’s different, I think everyone’s got their own stand on it.
“However comfortable you are with the person you are with, I don’t think anyone has the right to judge that.”
Carla, also the girlfriend of crooner Christian Bautista, debuts in her first big screen project in the Philippines in the said Regal Films production.
Meanwhile, Lovi Poe agreed with her co-actress.
“We live in this generation already,” said the daughter of the late King of Philippine Action movies, Fernando Po Jr.
“So, I don’t think anyone has the right to judge anyone.”
Gawad Urian-winning actor Paulo Avelino said that while he respects the conservative stand of most Catholics, living life to the fullest also matters.
“Ako naman, siyempre, coming from a Catholic country, the Catholic religion… mataas ang respeto ko sa mga ganun— marriage before the act.
“Pero … life is too short.
“I-experience mo na ang lahat ang puwedeng ma-experience bago… Kasi hindi mo alam kung kailan ka mawawala, e,” said the 24-year-old actor who turns a year older on May 13.
Paulo is a proud father of 2-year-old Ethan Akio— his son to real-life girlfriend, actress LJ Reyes.
The beautiful Jennylyn Mercado, a single mother to 4-year-old Alex Jazz, laughed off the inquiry at first.
“Ganito kasi yan…,” the actress said, drawing laughter from the entertainment writers.
She continued, “Hindi, kasi may anak na ako! Alam naman lahat ang buhay ko, di ba? Alam na nila yung sagot.
“Kung maibabalik ko ang mga panahon na … well, iba na nga ang generation ngayon, 2013 na.”
The GMA-7 actress reasoned that the kids of today’s generation are privileged with an early education regarding sex.
“Sa school pinag-aaralan na yan as early as Grade 5 or 6.
“I think open-minded na ngayon ang mga Pilipino. Mas wide na yung kaalaman nila sa mga ganung bagay at okay lang naman, di ba?
“Lahat tayo ay curious. Lahat tayo ay nai-in love at nadadala,” she ended.
Controversial personality Hayden Kho Jr. also debuts on the silver screen. In The Bride and The Lover, the on-and-off boyfriend of celebrity beauty surgeon Vicki Belo plays the character of Vivien’s loyal head of bodyguards.
Hayden, whose reputation in the industry was marred by his sex videos that went viral on the Net in 2009, made a disclaimer that he is not one to talk regarding the issue.
He, however, attempted to answer in all modesty: “Kung makakabalik ako sa panahon, siguro… I’d go for marriage before sex.
“Ini-imagine ko lang na kapag nagka-anak ako … gusto ko yun ang tinuturo ko sa kanya.
“Ayaw ko lang na maipit siya or matali siya sa, lalo na pag babae, na matali siya sa isang tao dahil nabuntis siya or naaksidente.
“Of course, coming from me, parang ‘Wow! Hayden? Marriage before sex?’
“I would stand for that before but nagkamali ako at natutunan ko yun,” explained Hayden, who is also the operations manager of ZO Skin Health and Medical System.
He ended the forum: “So, kung ako tatanungin mo, right now, ang sagot ko, marriage before sex. And that’s I would teach kids, the next generation, teach my kids, especially kung babae.”
Directed by Joel Lamangan, The Bride and The Lover will premiere in cinemas nationwide beginning May 1, 2013.
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