In the aftermath of Yilmaz Bektas's lengthy statement issued last Saturday, June 9, at GMA-7's Startalk—which Ruffa already answered via a phone-patch interview—the actress-beauty queen-TV host appeared live in The Buzz yesterday, June 10, to give her side again. This time, Ruffa was in fighting form.
"Lahat ng mga commercials and magazine covers alam ni Yilmaz," Ruffa jumpstarted on Yilmaz's earlier threat that he would sue her and demand custody of their two children, Lorin and Venice, once he found out that they're being used in commercials and magazines.
Yilmaz, in an interview with Startalk last June 9, declared that any company and publication interested in their kids should first seek his consent and approval.
"Noong pumirma kami ng kontrata for a commercial, isang parent consent lang ang hinihingi. Since I have the kids with me, they only needed my consent," explained Ruffa before touching on the kidnapping case that Yilmaz was reportedly planning to file against her.
"Malinaw na malinaw na noong umalis ako ng Istanbul noong February, which was the last time I saw Yilmaz, umalis ako ng Istanbul nang mag-isa, hindi ko kasama ang mga anak ko, so I left my children in Istanbul. After ten days pinadala niya ang mga bata dito sa Pilipinas with the yaya, so nasaan ang kidnapping doon?"
SERIOUS THREATS. Ruffa made fun of Yilmaz's accusation that she was a negligent mother to their children, as attested by her alleged habit of partying all night only to return home intoxicated.
"Magpapa-party pa lang ako to celebrate my independence from him," Ruffa, who will be celebrating her 33rd birthday this June 24, said mockingly
According to Ruffa, Yilmaz continues to pester, not just her, but even her parents, Annabelle Rama and Eddie Gutierrez, through phone calls and text messages.
"Bastos siya dahil tini-text niya ang Mommy ko and Daddy ko ng mga grave threats. Nasa cell phone ko lahat ng mga messages niya. Hindi niya kami pinapatulog, tumatawag siya 55 times a day...nagkaka-wrinkles na ako sa kakulitan niya. Sa lahat ng mga sinasabi niya sa TV bastos siya dahil he doesn't know how to respect the mother of his kids and for him to say that to my Mom.
"Hindi ko na raw makikita ang 33rd birthday ko dahil kaya niya daw magbayad at ipapatay ako. Kaya pag may nangyaring masama sa akin kagagawan ni Yilmaz ‘yon. Hindi ko na talaga siya babalikan."
The former Ms. World 2nd Princess also commented on Yilmaz's statement that he's returning her to where he first found her—the garbage.
"Napaka-sosyal naman na basura sa Cannes [Film] Festival," Ruffa said animatedly. "But for him to say that to the mother of his children says a lot about him. Can you imagine what he does to me pag kaming dalawa lang? That says a lot about the kind of person that he is."
Ruffa and Yilmaz first met at the Cannes Festival in May 2000. They got married on May 25, 2003 at The Fort in Taguig City.
BLACK AND BLUE. Ruffa then proceeded to report the entire ordeal she went through with her husband of four years.
"Before we even got married sinasaktan na niya ako," she confessed. "But love is blind. Noong una, sampal and tulak lang and it just got worse and worse. Last February when I came back from Istanbul, hindi ko na talaga matiis."
According to Ruffa, Yilmaz electrocuted her while she was in a bathtub, aside from the fact that he constantly beat her every time his temper got the better of him.
"One time I caught him talking to a woman sa Internet, so tinanong ko siya about it and sinaktan niya ko. There's also this one instance na na-late ako ng balik sa Istanbul tapos sinaktan na niya ako. I'm scared to go to the police kasi they're [the Bektas family] very powerful there, and hindi ko bansa ‘yon, baka ma-rape pa ko dun."
"Tinututukan niya ako ng baril. Kaya ko naman lumaban dahil matapang naman akong babae, pero iba na pag may baril ng nakatutok," she said.
She once again enumerated a litany of abuse: "Lahat ng maiisip mong puwedeng gawin sa akin... sinisipa niya ako, sinusuntok niya ako. Kinulong niya ako sa loob ng cabinet from 9:00 p.m. to 12 noon the next day."
Ruffa did manage to praise her in-laws by saying that they were very supportive of her and that they abhorred Yilmaz's violent streak.
LAST WORDS. At the end of the interview, Ruffa had this to say to her estranged husband: "I wanted to keep this between us but you won't stop... maawa ka naman sana sa mga anak mo because they're gonna grow up and they're gonna read about this."
Ruffa also had a parting shot to columnist Dolly Anne Carvajal, who said in a text message read in Showbiz Central on the same day, that she was vindicated. Dolly Anne had written in her Philippine Daily Inquirer column about Yilmaz's family alleged involvement in drugs and Ruffa's wedding to Richard Daloia.
"Hindi ka vindicated," she addressed Dolly Anne. "I was protecting Yilmaz and his family back then when you refer to them as drug lords. But now, you could write anything about them and no one's gonna fight with you, honey."