Married life is a continuous learning process. Just ask Umagang Kay Ganda host Donita Rose.
Now married for six years to non-showbiz husband Eric Villarama, the former MTV Asia VJ talked to PEP (Philippine Entertainment Portal) about how their relationship gradually evolved from fair to better. The couple used to reside in Singapore to accommodate Donita's MTV job.
"The first two years when we got back to the Philippines , medyo rocky yong relationship namin. We used to fight a lot," she confessed.
"But since January this year, nagha-honeymoon kami ulit and I feel like we've come to a point in our relationship where we hit the next level. 'Yong tipong we're not trying to change each other anymore. We just encourage one another and then we accept each other for who we are. Feeling ko dahil diyan, iba na 'yong maturity at stable na 'yong relationship namin."
Working in two completely opposite fields is never easy, according to the mestiza host. But the couple somehow managed to work around their respective erratic schedules without sacrificing their marital and domestic responsibilities.
"My situation is a bit different," Donita said. "I feel very privileged kasi I have a morning show so I wake up at three and then I go to work. I get home at 10 a.m., tapos na ang araw ko. I mean, in terms of work ko, unless may mga ibang gigs or whatever."
Eric's work schedule follows its own irregular routine: "My husband on the other hand, opposite 'yong clock niya. 'Pag tulog na kami sa gabi, 'tsaka na lang siya magtatrabaho and sometimes during the day din."
Donita's partner is in the field of marketing and graphic designing. Eric is also a public speaker dealing with the subject of "guerilla marketing"—technically defined as "unconventional system of promotions that relies on time, energy and imagination rather than a big marketing budget."
BEAUTY AT 34. While being a wife and mother offers love, stability and comfort, Donita revealed that the situation can also affect an individual's sense of self. This is particularly true in Donita's case, where looking good at all times is a prerequisite in her chosen profession.
That is why being included in YES! 100 Most Beautiful Stars for 2009 came as a welcome surprise to Donita.
"Akala ko nagkamali sila," she quipped in a conversation with PEP yesterday, June 22, at Annabel's restaurant in Quezon City. Turning serious, Donita said, "It's an honor to be part of something like this. And I'm grateful because sometimes as a mom, and you get into your thirties, and you start to see a wrinkle or two, you ask yourself, 'Am I really beautiful?' That question crosses my mind quite often."
Donita, who is part of the special issue's "Beautiful at any Age" category, stressed that she's not over-conscious, however, about physical appearance.
"For me, what matters most is 'yong kalagayan ko sa loob," she said.
Still, it wouldn't hurt to keep looking good while having a domestic lifestyle. Donita hopes that her inclusion in the list would at least inspire married women to continue taking good care of themselves despite being over the 20's hump.
"Especially when you're married na and, of course, your husband loves you for who you are, you forget that you need to beautify yourself to keep the relationship alive."