HE SAYS, SHE SAYS: Zoren Legaspi and Carmina Villarroel-Legaspi argue for the good of family

IMAGE Noel Orsal

Despite their contrasting personalities, the relationship of couple Carmina Villarroel and Zoren Legaspi remains strong, proving that opposites do attract. In photo with the couple are their children, twins Maverick Peter and Maria Cassandra.


The Legaspis seem to have everything intact.

The closeness of husband and wife Zoren Legaspi and Carmina Villarroel-Legaspi is obvious.
And their kids Maverick Peter and Maria Cassandra are growing up in the right values.
An epitome of a perfect family, they are the new endorsers of Jollibee.
So we asked the couple, "Do they ever argue?"
"We argue, pero hindi kami nagaaway na one day hindi naguusap," Carmina clarified.
We listed some of the issues Zoren and Carmina argue about most of the time and how they resolve matters before the day ends.
BUDGET. The Japan trip, for example.
"Actually ako lang 'ata ang may gusto, e," Carmina said.
Zoren interjected, "Hindi, gusto ko rin naman kaya lang… kasi ako ma-kwenta.
"Siya pagdating sa ganyan, hindi nya kinukwenta."
But Zoren also cited an incident when he wanted to splurge on a sofa and Carmina argued against it, "Ang mahal-mahal nyan."
He countered, "Eh, inuupuan natin 'to araw-araw, bakit hindi?
Carmina listened and defended her decision about the family trip to Tokyo, saying the trip was for their memories, something the kids could happily look back to and forward to the next year’s adventure.
She said, "Kasi iba ung memories, you can’t buy them."
Zoren conceded, "I really want to travel with the kids kasi lumalaki na sila, tatay diba.
"So darating ung panahon na gusto nila nagba-bond sa barkada, pero parang feeling ko di naman, parang family first pa rin naman sila."
Carmina added that she and Zoren work very hard for their annual vacation trips.
NEEDS AND WANTS. About the choice of summer activities, Carmina and Zoren differ in parental perspective.
Her view, "Ask them what they want to do kasi may iba na hindi naman nagtatanong.
"Tapos susunod lang yung mga bata sa magulang pero di naman nag-e-enjoy ung kids."
He disagreed, "No, don’t ask the kids.
"Kasi sasabihin lang nyan Disneyland.
"Eh, ilang Disneyland ba kailangan puntahan…"
Carmina cut him off, "But we were going to Tokyo, how can you not go to Disneyland pag nasa Tokyo ka?
"Basta ako, ask the kids what they want or yung mga hobbies nila.
"Let’s say kung swimming or sand ang gusto nila, then go to a beach.
"Or go to saan may pool area para mag-enjoy ang kids kasi mamaya dalhin mo sa snow, ayaw naman pala ng snow.
"Dapat alamin mo yung mga hilig nila, anong gusto nila ma-experience or anong klaseng adventure yung gusto nila.
"As long as you do something na mag-e-enjoy talaga yung pamilya."
Zoren asserted, "Ako kasi, ung tip ko, lalo na sa mga lalaki, kung ano ang weak point ng mga anak nyo, diyan nyo papalakasin sa summer.
"Kasi may mga parents na walang ginagawa so yung buong summer is a wasted time.
"Ako, there were moments na pinalakas ko si Maverick physically kasi physically mahina siya.
"So pinalakas ko talaga yan through sports.
"Pag nakita nyo kung ano mga weaknesses nila, make them stronger.
"Ngayon pag umiyak, ibato mo pa rin kasi it’s for his own good.
"Basta, anything for the good of the kids, kailangan itulak mo.
"Kasi ang bata hindi talaga pupunta doon unless itulak nyo.
"Kailangan tulungan mo ma-accomplish nya ung fear na yun, na ma-overcome nya.
"Ngayon, na-e-enjoy na nya, siya na ung naghahanap ng sports.
"Ngayon, nasa varsity team na si Maverick."
SOCIAL LIFE. Like typical parents, Carmina and Zoren are concerned about the goings-on in the social life of their children, how they interact with their peers.
They are also aware that they will eventually have crushes and puppy loves.
Zoren was serious, "Ito ung pinakaimportante, yung mga crush-crush na yan.
"Kailangan yan open sila sa amin kasi yan ung pinakaimportante eh, secondary na ung iba."
Carmina challenged, "Love life talaga ung pinaka-importante?"
Zoren jumped in, "Paano hindi magiging importante? Kunyari si Maverick, may crush sya sa school, nahihiya sya.
"Apektado yan pati ung grades, lahat yan apektado.
"Kaya importante yun."
Carmina clarified, "Maybe what you’re saying is that what’s important is to really communicate, not necessarily about love life.
"By instilling to them to be honest, na wag mahihiya, na you really have to be open to your family.
"Kaya lagi ko sinasabi sa kanila na ang pamilya, mananatiling pamilya whether gumawa ka ng kabutinhan, whether pumalpak ka.
"Pamilya mo pa rin ang sasagip sayo.
"Pamilya mo pa rin ung nandyan para sa 'yo.
"Pwede kang magkaroon ng napakaraming kaibigan pero ang pamilya mo, yan na yan.
"Kaya kailangan you have to take care of your family and respect din sa isa’t isa bilang pamilya."
PEACE. After an argument, the couple reflect and agree that it's all for the good of the family. And always, humor saves the day.
Carmina related, "Nakita mo naman magkaiba kami ng opinion,
"Mga desisyon, at least may balance, diba?
"Kaya nga sitcom kami.
"Imagine, magkaiba kami, pero magkasundo kami.
"Di rin naman kami dumarating sa point na one week kami di naguusap.
"Kasi sa karakter nya, meron syang way na matatawa ka nalang sa kanya imbis na mabibwisit ka.
"Tapos kung kasalanan ko naman lalambing ako sa kanya na,“Tatay, sorry.'
"Kasi di naman mahirap sa amin na mag sorry, eh, yun naman ung maganda.
"It’s really a matter of respecting your partner’s decisions, and siguro it’s how you say it to your partner or to the kids."

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