Celebrities have learned that status and achievements do not shield them from public put-downs and judgment.
Toni Gonzaga is one of the showbiz personalities who are getting negative criticisms on the Internet despite the hard work they put in to make their mark in an industry crowded with stars and teen sensations.
Most unfortunate for Toni, some showbiz watchers appear blind to her talent as a host, an actress, or even as a singer.
But they have a lot to say about her clothes, her hairstyle, her physical appearance in general, including her being squint-eyed (banlag) at times.
The Pinoy Big Brother host admits she used to get hurt by these negative comments when she was still new in the industry.
“When I was growing up, siguro mga 17 hanggang 20,” recalls Toni, who got her biggest break in showbiz in 2001 through a soda commercial with Piolo Pascual.
“But when I reached mga mid-20s, I realized I wasted so much years, so much emotions in nursing or harboring hurts and pains because some people didn’t approve of me or didn’t appreciate me.”
Now, according to the Kapamilya singer-host, she does not get affected by bashers anymore.
“Wala na,” she shrugs. “I don’t know, kasi everything about my physical appearance, my look, ‘yong katawan ko, talagang they will bash me from the top of my head to the tip of my toes.
“Talagang sanay na ako.
“Ever since I signed up for the business, I signed up for this na.
“Ginusto kong mag-artista, ginusto ko ang industriyang ito, it comes with the territory na talagang may mga haters.”
To avoid people’s hurtful comments, Toni says she turns her focus on the people who continuously support her instead.
“One thing I've realized, when you have haters, God sends naman people who will love you so, naba-balance din siya.
“I think nasa 70-30 ang percentage. Lamang din naman yung nagmamamahal.”
Also, she always reminds herself to give more attention to the blessings in her life.
Toni relates, “All I have to do is just really go back to my core and look at what I have, look at the blessings instead of mga negativity around.
“Kasi ‘yong mga hatred, mga bashers, may kapalit namang laging biyaya sa’yo.”
SUPPORT GROUP. Toni mentions that it also helped that she has a strong support from her family and her boyfriend.
Whenever Toni relates to her longtime boyfriend, Paul Soriano, her frustration about the negative comments she used to get, the latter would just advise her to ignore them.
“Paul is the most positive person I know,” she relates.
“Every time I would call him, he would say, ‘Are we really talking about that?
"'It’s not even worth talking about, Tin. You’re wasting your saliva, your voice.’
“’Just save your energy na lang for your concert. Huwag na natin pag-usapan.’
“’The mere fact that you wanna talk about it is because you’re getting affected.’
“Sabi ko, 'Oo nga,' so di na namin pinag-uusapan.”
With regard to her parents, Toni laughs as she relates what they always tell her, “Maganda ka kasi kami ang mga magulang mo. Kung pangit ka, pangit din kami.”
In the end, Toni reiterates the lesson she has learned from bashers, “This is how I want to look in my life: I should be thankful for what I have instead of being angry for what I don’t have.”