Richard Poon sees no end to wooing wife Maricar Reyes

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Richard Poon on making marital adjustments: "I think every couple naman maraming adjustment kasi no matter sabihin mong mabait ka o mabait yung kabila, pinalaki kayong ibang-iba, e."


A year after their wedding, showbiz couple Richard Poon and Maricar Reyes are still adjusting to their topsy-turvy work schedules.

Richard admitted that balancing their time for each other and for their respective careers has been quite a challenge. But he also made it clear that it has not affected their relationship, which continues to bloom day after day.

PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) and other members of the press spoke with Richard last August 9 at the United Fashion Show 2014 in Robinsons Place Manila.

“Medyo challenging kasi siyempre may tugtog ako sa gabi,” he began.

“Siya naman [may taping] MWF pero madaling araw na siya umuuwi.

“So halimbawa Monday, buong araw, uuwi siya Tuesday ng madaling araw.

"So adjustment talaga, naguusap talaga kami ng oras.

"Pag may off siya, pinipilit ko kung pwede wala akong trabaho.

“Kasi yun lang yung time namin magkita, e.

Maricar is currently in the ABS CBN teleserye Sana Bukas Pa Ang Kahapon with Bea Alonzo and Paulo Avelino. Meanwhile, Richard is busy finalizing his upcoming album and performing for late-night gigs.

As a result, he said, “Minsan I have to wait for her kasi minsan yung isang kanang kamay, yung isang assistant niya, taga Fairview.

"So pinapauwi namin dahil may pamilya rin so walang magbubukas ng gate kundi ako.

“Kailangan ko talaga magising."

Not only that, he ends up cooking for Maricar as well.

He recalled an incident, "One-time, dahil siguro napupuyat ako kakagawa ko ng album ko ngayon, nilutuan ko siya.

"Dahil meron mga nakita ako sa ref, tinitignan ko lagi ref namin, ano bang meron.

“Ako naman yung cook ng bahay so nilutuan ko lang siya nung chicken noodles, mga favourite niya.”

MENTORS. Richard also revealed that he and Maricar have sought the advice of the other couples in their church.

He explained, “These are people… we belong in the same church, but I’m not saying they’re any better.

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"Pero siyempre tumitingin din ako sa marriage ng iba kasi I come from a broken home.

“Si Maricar ang hindi, ako yung medyo may sabit sa ganun.

“So lumaki akong takot mag-marry kasi separated yung parents ko.

"So when I came in to church, I got to look at the marriages.

“Hindi ko sinasabing okay lahat but tinitignan ko talaga.

"'‘Etong mag-asawa na ‘to may problema sa pera, gipit, pero okay sila e.’

“I really picked, pini-pick ko talaga, I’d approach them.

“Sabi ko, ‘Puwede niyo ba ako i-mentor?’”

Richard recounted the dinner with six different couples when he and Maricar asked them how they resolve their differences and maintain a happy relationship.

“Usually sa church naman naming kapag mas bata ka, they’ll take you in, basta willing ka.

“So ako lagi kong sinasabi, ‘Willing akong matuto sa inyo.’

“Alam mo ang bayad lang dun, dinner.

“I-dinner mo lang yung mag-asawa.

“Bato ka lang ng ganito pero walang naka-record.

“Bato ka lang kung pano niyo, ‘Ano yung pinaka-biggest fight niyo?… Paano niyo na-o-overcome yung halimbawa siya ganito, ikaw ganyan… Sumigaw na ba kayo?’ Mga ganun.

“Sasabihin nila sayo so meron kaming ganun.”

DATE NIGHTS. One of the things Richard has picked up from the mentors is to schedule exclusive date nights with his wife.

“I don’t think na sa honeymoon stage kami in terms of like sobrang kilig-kilig pa,” he clarified.

“Pero merong honeymoon feeling kasi, ewan ko, yun yung tinuro sa akin, e.

"Pag tinigil mo raw yung pag-pupursue sa asawa mo, mamamatay raw yung feelings.

"Yung mga mentor namin, may mga date night sila.”

And part of the date night deal is to turn off the cellphones, which Richard admitted he found “weird.”

“Nung nakita ko yun, una nawi-weirdo-han ako, but since all of them are doing it, sabi ko mukhang okay, a.

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“‘Tsaka mas mukhang masaya sila e kahit may problema sa buhay, matatag yung marriage.

"So sabi ko ‘Hon, subukan naman natin yun o.’

In short, he recapitulated, "So meron kaming mga ganun.

“Dini-date ko talaga siya, impromptu minsan, ‘Tagaytay tayo!’ ‘Ha? Sige!.’

“E di Tagaytay kami.”

MAJOR ADJUSTMENTS. Since they are still in the early stages of their marriage, Richard and Maricar continue to make adjustments.

He pointed out, “I think every couple naman maraming adjustment.

"Kasi no matter sabihin mong mabait ka o mabait yung kabila, pinalaki kayong ibang-iba, e.

“So yung response namin, for example, very basic ang response namin.

"Let’s say sa tension o kaya yung pressure, I’m the type na gusto kong pag-usapan agad.

“Siya naman, ang family background niya, ‘Wag nating pag-usapan.’

“Hindi pinag-uusapan 'yan ng pamilya, parang ginaganun lang.

“Pag may problema, parang light lang, light lang usapan.

“Walang medyo maano. So papag-usapan niyo talaga kasi…”

HOUSE RULES. According to Richard, the end of the honeymoon stage means leveling up in the relationship that requires a huge amount of effort for the husband and wife.

He said, “Meron kaming house rules.

“It’s mutually agreed halimbawa, 'Asawa kita, anong gusto mo, anong gusto ko,' pero mutually agreed yun.

“Hindi pwedeng ikaw lang may gusto o ako lang, kailangan mutual.

“Halimbawa, 'Agree ka ba na may date night tayo?'

“Kapag humindi ka, hindi pwedeng rule yun so meron kaming ganun.

“Pag nag-agree, hindi pwedeng pag-awayan kasi nag-agree tayo e so may rules kami.”

Richard revealed these house rules are posted in their living room as constant reminders of their agreement.

Richard explained, “Sabi ng mentors namin, pag pinag-usapan niyo, hindi niyo sinulat, hindi niyo nakikita, hindi nasusunod.

“So sinusulat namin yun, naka platepaste sa wall.

“Every week, once lang, babasahin namin together, ‘Nagagawa ba natin 1, 2,…?’ okay naman.”

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One of their agreements is never to engage in a shouting match. If they lapse, they use the T-sign (time out) and shut the discussion until both parties have calmed down.

“So pag tumataas na ko, ‘O, baba mo, baba mo.’

“Hindi pwedeng mag-resume yun.

“Ako, naiintindihan ko na yun, 'Oops!' rule namin yun, 'di ba?

"Agreement yun so bababa mo and then kakausapin niya ko.

“Kasi pag walang ganun, sisigawan mo, masisira na, kahit na tama ka.”


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