When you are 35 years old like Ryan Agoncillo, who’s been in showbiz for 15 years and a dad for 10 years—one important thing you learn is taking things easy.
“Balanse lang,” he told PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) at the launch of his latest endorsement, Panadol, on March 26.
He continued, “Otherwise, sasakit talaga ulo mo.”
We asked him: What gives you headaches?
“Yung headache, wala yata akong matandaang araw mula nung college ako na hindi ako nagkaroon ng sakit ng ulo.”
And that’s primarily because of his eye problem.
“Malabo ang mata ko, ‘di ba.”
Add to this, there’s “the heat, the stress, ang dami!
“Just the daily stress of a being a host and actor…Ako yung ilaw, kalaban ko, e. Actually yun yung kalaban.”
How about the people he gets to work with?
“Nobody in particular, not a person but maybe situations where ah…siyempre minsan, hindi kumpleto tulog mo.
“Pero the show must go on. No excuses. Yun, yung mga gano’n talagang kailangan gawin mo yung trabaho mo.”
He has the same no-excuse principle as far as fatherhood is concerned.
“Well, basically, ano e siyempre yung mga anak natin, ang pinakamahalagang masi-share natin sa kanila yung oras.
“So no matter how tired you are, no matter how puyat you are, pag ikaw, hindi naman nila alam puyat ka, e.
“Pag tinalunan ka sa kama niyan at ginising ka, bangon ka, ‘di ba, laruin mo.”
From the same one-on-one interview with Ryan, we learned a few things about fatherhood, like, can you say "timeout muna" to your kids? but what if you're really tired?
1. Do not bring your worries from work.
The Eat Bulaga! host elaborated, “Pag uuwi, you had a bad day at work, hindi naman nila alam yun, e, ‘tsaka care naman nila, ‘di ba.
“Pero pag niyaya ka nilang makipaghabulan o play tag, you gotta be there as a parent.”
2. When you have time for your kid, give him/her your full attention.
Ryan said, “Not all the time nasa kundisyon ka…
“You have to be there. Hindi puwedeng half-baked yung pakikipaglaro mo sa anak mo.
“Inaabangan ka nilang umuwi buong araw, e. So I don’t wanna fail them in that.
“Kahit mga half an hour lang, kahit 15 minutes lang basta yung solid time na yun.
“And then they move on doing other things, as long as you spend that quality and super moment with them, you just have to be there.”
3. Bargaining time with your kids, do not make it a habit.
“…siyempre pag ka may kailangan akong gawing trabaho, ‘di ba, hindi naman puwedeng, ‘Teka anak, trabaho muna si Daddy.’
“Halimbawa, mommy time, kailangan…But when you have no excuse at kailangan, at tinatamad ka lang or pagod ka lang, hindi, e, hindi puwede, e.”
4. Work it out with your partner.
Ryan mentioned “saluhan” arrangement between him and wife Judy Ann Santos.
He resumed, “Like now, Judy Ann is with Lucho and Yohan, they are actually doing the groceries now kasi bakasyon na si Lucho at si Yohan, maagang na-dismiss sa klase.
“So for today, it’s mommy day.
“There will be days that it’s me kasi, may mga days din naman na halimbawa, wala naman akong trabaho after ng Eat Bulaga, I’m home before sun down and I take care of the kids till let’s say dinnertime.
“Andiyan na si Mommy, galing naman sa trabaho niya, ako naman yung toka.”
5. The tried and tested role-playing is also evident in the Agoncillo household.
Who’s the disciplinarian?
He replied, “In the beginning, it was me. Now it’s more Judy Ann. For now.
“Bala-balanse lang naman kasi, si Yohan, tapos na yung discipline stage, e. Disiplano na siya, e, so ngayon, mahina yung usap, kuwentuhan na.
“Si Lucho ngayon yung papasok sa dinidisplina, and thank God, he’s a very pliant kid, you know. Sumusunod naman pero huwag nating udlutin.”
6. Be strong—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—for your kids.
One thing he liked about his endorsement Panadol, it’s “five times faster” in relieving pains.
“So wala nang problema if masakit ulo mo o masakit katawan mo.
“E, ano naman, you know, I really want to do that. Gusto kong lumakas…Gusto kong buhatin siya hanggang kaya, maging game ako sa habulan, superhero, lipad-lipad, ganun sa commercial namin.
"Kasi, you know, konti na lang baka hindi ko na mabuhat. Si Yohan, naki-carry ko na lang siya with two arms, e. Hindi ko na kayang i-carry siya over my head. She’s 10 years old.
"Si Lucho, almost ganun din. Kaya I want to have more energy, and I don’t want down time dahil sa anumang body pain,” he grinned while promoting his paracetamol brand.