Sarah Lahbati is “sick and tired” of hearing the question, “How to be you po?”
The Kapamilya actress-performer wrote on her personal blog, “I get a little upset.
“People stress about not looking like their Instagram idol.
“This attitude has become a sort of sickness.
“We need to stop comparing ourselves to others.”
The Filipina-Swiss beauty then reminisced about her high school days in Switzerland when she looked nothing like the glamorous celebrity that she is now.
Back then, Sarah found herself guilty of indirectly asking “How to be you po?” to her stylish classmates.
She recalled, “I was an insecure teen.
“I had wavy hair. I thought I was fat. I moved awkwardly.
"I wore the wrong clothes, apparently.
“I kept comparing myself to other girls who had straight hair (like they stepped out of a shampoo commercial) and perfect bodies, who moved gracefully and had model-perfect makeup.
“Yes, I was envious of how they looked and what they had.”
Sarah called herself out as “superficial,” admitting that the material things she asked for only made her happy for a while.
How did she shake off that feeling of envy and insecurity?
For that, Sarah thanked her “true friends.”
She wrote, “I met true friends who appreciated me for well, being just me.
“The messy-wavy haired me.
“The awkward me.
“The unfashionable teenage me.
“These friends of mine made me feel loved.
“They accepted me for who I am, and I cherished them.”
BE THE BEST YOU. Instead of asking that question, Sarah encouraged netizens to ask themselves, “How can I be the best I can be?”
She pointed out, “Each of us has her own special gifts and talents. Each one is beautiful in her way.”
Instead of trying so hard to be mere copycats of their favorite celebrities, Sarah felt that people can feel so much better by just being better versions of themselves.
To achieve this, she suggested, “Take care of yourself as best as you can.
“Exercise. Eat healthy. Develop your talents.
“Appreciate your uniqueness, whether you have a curvy body, wavy hair, straight hair, lanky arms or whatever.
“It’s okay to have baby fat.
“It’s okay to have curly hair.
“It’s okay if you are not graceful.
“You have positive traits that you can accentuate.
“You have a good heart, and you can give love.
“Find true friends who will have a positive influence and bring out the best in you”
She then reiterated, “Don’t ask the celebs you idolize, ‘How to be you?’
“Instead, ask yourself, ‘How can I be the best that I can be?’ and improve yourself.”
Read her full blog post here.