How's your sex life during the COVID-19 pandemic?
We hope it has not completely gone MIA (missing in action) the whole time we’ve been staying indoors. For all the benefits sex has on one’s health and well-being, there’s really no reason to skip it altogether.
In fact, health experts are not stopping you from doing it — yes, even during this time. However, it goes without saying that you have to do it safely and responsibly.
But the thing is, safe and responsible sex in the time of COVID-19 goes beyond consent and contraceptives. You also need to be constantly aware that your actions will not put yourself and your partner’s health at risk.
After all, sex equals intimacy, and that in itself contradicts the social distancing rules we’ve been following religiously since the quarantine began.
Remember: sex should be enjoyable and stress-free. These techniques can help you and your hubby get it on without worry:
1. OPEN UP ABOUT YOUR WORRIES
Sex usually entails talking and no, we’re not just referring to the “dirty” kind.
For partners living together, having sex regularly is a no-brainer. But these are extraordinary times and now, getting the other party’s okay doesn’t simply mean getting them to agree to sleep with you.
Before getting under the sheets to do the do, talk about any worries either of you may have about being intimate during the pandemic. Having these feelings is perfectly normal, so don’t be afraid to express them.
It’s only when your and your partner’s minds are at ease that you can have pleasurable, worry-free sex.
2. USE PROTECTION
So, you and your hubby decided to have sex. Now, what?
In case you’re worried about possibly contracting or infecting your partner with COVID-19 through sex, you’d be relieved to know that there’s currently no evidence saying that the virus can be transmitted through intercourse.
But don’t forget: COVID-19 is a respiratory virus that spreads mainly from person to person. While you can’t get infected directly through down there, it’s possible through kissing, touching, and heavy breathing.
The safest bet, really, is to make sure you and hubby are in the pink of health and have not been exposed to anyone with the virus before getting it on.
And yes, do continue to use barrier protection like condoms during sex. There’s more than one thing to be mindful of aside from COVID-19, and that is to protect you and your partner from sexually transmitted infections and avoid unplanned pregnancies.
3. PRACTICE ‘SOCIALLY DISTANCED’ SEX
The pandemic has changed the way we live, and, yes, that includes sex.
Like we said, sex should be okay if both partners are healthy and feeling well, and have not been exposed to anyone infected with the virus. Couples living together arguably have it easier than singles and couples who live apart.
As for the rest? Well, no one’s telling you to go completely tagtuyot until it’s safe to meet potential partners or your SO (significant other) again. You just need to start practicing “socially distanced” sex for now.
It may sound like a new concept, but what it means is to just have sex virtually: phone sex, video sex, and sexting — with consent and full confidence that your partner won’t violate your privacy, of course.
For obvious reasons, health experts advise against mingling with others in the meantime. But they do encourage masturbation, which is the safest type of sexual activity during this pandemic.
Spice things up, be more adventurous (you might want to try a sex toy), but whatever you do, don’t forget to wash your hands before and after with soap and water for at least 20 seconds.
These are just some of the many ways to #DoItRight during these uncertain times. With proper knowledge and as long as you are doing it responsibly, you don’t have to be afraid of getting intimate with your partner or fulfilling your sexual needs.
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