When Iya Villania and Drew Arellano went online as guests of Bianca Gonzalez in her Instagram Kwentuhan sessions, the issue at hand was the inisan between mag-asawa.
Iya then recalled an instance that vexed her particularly now with the enhanced community quarantine (ECQ) still in effect.
She began her long narration: "Ever since the ECQ started, parang we've learned not to wake up as early as we normally do.
"We really take our time in the morning, we really wait for the kids to wake up.
"Hindi namin sila inuunahan to get out of the room. Kung dati, lumalabas kami ng mga 6 a.m., ngayon lumalabas kami 7:30 na o mag 9 a.m. na.
"Ang problema lang doon, when we get out of the room late, medyo late na rin kami nakakapag-work out."
And because their usual routine has always been to work out first before breakfast, it also means late breakfast for them.
BE MORE ATTENTIVE, SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF YOUR PARTNER
But on that particular day, their three-year-old son Primo wanted to do a quick lesson on his iPad just as Iya and Drew were getting ready for their workout.
The celebrity mom continued, "Just before we were about to go for our workout, Primo wanted to learn.
"So, siyempre, uunahin ko siya. Hindi ako iyong, 'Teka lang anak, magwo-workout lang muna ako.'
"Siyempre iyong workout puwede i-adjust. When your kid wants to learn, siyempre you gotta take that opportunity."
Teaching Primo would take "a good 30 minutes," Iya said. "Ayoko naman 10 minutes na, 'Sige, maglaro ka na diyan.'
"By the time I got started with my workout, iniisip ko, 'Sana tinulungan ako ni Drew…'
"Habang si Drew nagse-cellphone, 'tapos ako, iyong medyo gutom na.
"Gusto ko na mag-workout, pero nag-aaral pa kami ni Primo.So, medyo naiinis na ako kay Drew."
According to Iya, she got to thinking, "Parang, 'Love, next time'—lalo na mabilis siya kumilos sa umaga—'maybe next time you can help Primo with learning para naman I can do my thing in the morning?'"
when you're mad, "cool down" first
But instead of telling Drew what was on her mind right there and then, Iya waited until she had simmered down.
Iya related, "I needed the happy vibes para masagot ko siya nang umayos, nang hindi galit."
Airing his side, Drew said he did notice that Iya was acting a bit strange at that time, "You know how girls are, di ba?
"You gotta read between the lines, right? She's not gonna be vocal about it.
"She's not gonna write it down, like, 'Okay, my problem now is like this…'
"So, of course, siyempre, medyo naramdaman ko na, 'Teka, okay ka ba? Iba iyong timpla mo. Iba iyong disposition mo.''
Iya and Drew did talk things over, which the Kapuso talent initiated once she cooled down.
She recalled telling him, "'Love, can you just help me with this? With Primo?'"
Iya went on to say that Drew realized his shortcoming and quickly apologized.
"In fairness naman kay Drew, when I told Drew how I felt, sabi niya, 'Yes, love. Sorry, sorry.'
"Sabi niya, 'Favor lang din. Just tell me when you need help.' Because I guess guys, they can't really read between the lines.
"So, for Drew's sake, he was like, 'Okay, para hindi na maulit ito, just tell me when you need help and don't wait na lang for me.
"'Don't expect me na lang to pick up on these things right away.'"
The Biyahe ni Drew host also explained himself, "Ako rin naman kasi, with my personality and how I go through the day…
"I also follow a routine na minsan hindi nagiging klaro sa akin na may mga outside forces na kailangan ko tutukan."
"YOU REALLY HAVE TO SAY IT"
Iya then shared how misplaced expectations in relationships can only lead to disappointment.
She said, "It's really important to communicate. Don't expect your partner to read between the lines and to pick up on things right away. You really just have to say it.
"It doesn't mean na, dahil kailangan mo sabihin, hindi niyo na kilala ang isa't-isa. It's not that.
"So, don't feel bad na, 'Hindi pa ba niya ako kilala? Dapat alam na niya iyan, e.'
"Iwasan mo na iyong mga ganyan kasi that's just gonna lead to heartache and disappointment."
For his part, Drew appreciated that Iya let some time passed before communicating her needs.
He said, "Timing din is everything. Siguro naisip niya, baka mas maganda iyong deliver ng nararamdaman niya kapag medyo good vibes na siya."
Drew stressed that he and Iya have known each other's quirks so well to get into big fights over petty issues.
He said, "Kahit papano, we have an advantage a little bit because we've known each other a long time.
"Kasi tayo, alam na natin iyong isa't-isa natin, e.
"Baka you can use this, guys, this really weird time to find out about each other.
"I'm sure there are a lot of couples there na... 'Ah, ganoon iyon. Ganoon pala siya.'"
Iya and Drew have been a couple for 16 years.
They began dating in 2004 and got married in 2014.
The Kapuso couple has two boys: Primo, 3, and Leon, 1.
They are currently expecting their third child.