Married actresses reveal major considerations before saying "I do"

by FM Ganal
Jul 5, 2020
(L-R) Dani Barretto, Rica Peralejo, Joyce Ching, and Maricar Reyes talk about how they prepared themselves for marriage. Also in the photo: their respective husbands Xavi Panlilio, Pastor Joseph Bonifacio, Kevin Alimon, and Richard Poon.
PHOTO/S: Nice Print Photography / @ricaperalejo, @maricareyespoon on Instagram

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions a person can make in a lifetime.

Is it possible to fully prepare oneself for this life-changing moment?

What are the considerations before getting married?

PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) poses these questions to these celebrities who have chosen the married life.

Dani Barretto

2019 was a big year for Dani.

It was the year she got engaged to boyfriend Xavi Panlilio, became his wife, and gave birth to their daughter Millie.

Dani and Xavi tied the knot at Santuario de San Antonio Parish in Makati, on April 23, 2019.

Before getting married, it was important for Dani to know if she and Xavi had the same vision for their future together.

PEP.ph: What are the things that should be discussed with your partner before marriage?

Dani: The first thing we started talking about was our house. We started building it before we got married.

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We had to discuss how we wanted it to look like, stuff like that.

We also started talking about our savings. Like how much of our individual salaries are we gonna put in our joint savings account monthly.

We wanted to be in sync with these kind of decisions. Because if not, it'll cause problems in the future.

Do you believe there is an "ideal age" to get married?

Dani: I can't speak for others. But I've always wanted to get married at 25.

But there's more to it, e. Other people have other concerns before getting married. Some want to be financially stable first.

In my opinion, you'll never really be ready for these kinds of things... If it feels right, and you're with the right person, then go for it.

Figure out the rest together.

But that's my opinion. Some naman have a plan that they want to follow, and that's okay too.

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PEP.ph: Why do you think marriage is important?

Dani: Marriage is important to me, because first we have a daughter.

We need to set an example to her and show her that we are serious about each other and that we love each other so much.

That we vowed to stay together forever and she's the product of that love.

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Marriage is a beautiful thing. It's growing old with the person you're meant to spend the rest of your life with.

Marriage is going through life together. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

And it's having someone to grow old with. That's something I am looking forward to.

Marriage will get tough sometimes, but it's always worth it.

PEP.ph: Do you think a person will ever feel "ready" to get married?

Dani: For me, you'll never be really ready for marriage and parenthood. It's something new to us.

But just like a hobby we've never done before, we figure it out. We always figure it out.

It's okay to be scared, it's normal... But that's life. Life is scary.

We don't know what's gonna happen next, and that's the beauty of it.

When you're with the right person, the unknown is not that scary anymore.

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Maricar Reyes

Maricar and husband Richard Poon recently celebrated their seventh wedding anniversary.

They "secretly" got married on June 9, 2013. Their intimate wedding ceremony was held at the Bellevue Hotel in Alabang.

Maricar and Richard have always kept the details of their relationship as private as possible.

But through their blog and YouTube channel, they share the relationship lessons they learn along the way.

PEP.ph: What are the things that should be discussed with your partner before marriage?

Maricar: How will the money be handled, where will we live (long term & short term), boundaries when it comes to in-laws and family.

PEP.ph: What do you think is also important to discuss with your family?

Maricar: That my spouse & new family will now be my new priority. (Explained respectfully that it doesn't mean I love them less. It's just that priorities & responsibilities will change).

PEP.ph: Do you believe there is such thing as an "ideal age" to get married?

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Maricar: Hard to say. Too many other factors to consider aside from age. Best follow the guidelines set by law.



PEP.ph: Why do you think marriage is important?

Maricar: Ideally, it's designed to be a fulfilling and enriching relationship. Ideally. [laughing emoji]

PEP.ph: Do you think a person will ever feel "ready" to get married?

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Maricar: Many people feel ready to get married. I know a lot of people who feel ready... spouse na lang kulang [laughing emoji]

But if you've been ready for a long time and your partner still isn't... well, then that needs some serious evaluation with each other & with mentors. [smiley emoji]

It's better if you guys are on the same page.

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Rica Peralejo

Rica has been married to her husband, Pastor Joseph Bonifacio, for ten years this 2020.

The couple tied the knot in a beach wedding on January 29, 2010. Rica and Joseph have two boys: Philip and Manu.

Their relationship is centered around their faith in and love of God.

PEP.ph: What are the things that should be discussed with your partner before marriage?

Rica: His values and faith in God.

If you can, you guys need to talk about how much they value family life and making sure that core relationships are more important than wealth, power, reputation.

You need to see how this person is decided to do everything to make what you have work and not so easily cave in when challenges come.

PEP.ph: What do you think is also important to discuss with your family?

Rica: I think if you are getting married already, formality is all that's needed, especially for adults.

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But that also depends on your own family culture and how important it is to you that everyone in your family agrees with your decision or that they've reached a certain level of closeness.

PEP.ph: Do you believe there is an "ideal age" to get married?

Rica: Not really. I think though it's easier and wiser when school's done and you can focus solely on building a family instead of trying to juggle studies, trying to be independent, and marriage.

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But I believe everyone's got their own story so this question has answers that are unique to the situation of each person.

PEP.ph: Why do you think marriage is important?

Rica: Because God ordained it and even used it as a picture of how His love for His church looks like.

In that is the meaningfulness of marriage, of how it exemplifies love and commitment between two people who didn't really have to, but chose to vow themselves as one.

PEP.ph: Do you think a person will ever feel "ready" to get married?

Rica: Nope. Never. No one is ever truly ready for marriage. No knowledge compares with the real thing.

But the hope there is that God can give us the grace to go through something you cannot really prepare for.

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JOYCE CHING

Joyce married her husband Kevin Alimon last December 8, 2019.

The GMA-7 actress had an outdoor wedding ceremony at the Baguio Country Club in Baguio City.

One of the ways Joyce and Kevin prepared themselves for marriage was through counselling.

For Joyce, counselling can help couples understand each other's values, which is a key point in preparing oneself for marriage.

PEP.ph: What are the things that should be discussed with your partner before marriage?

Joyce: I think the most important thing to talk about are the values you both want to have in your family.

Since you're going to start building your marriage and your own family, it's essential to know the things you and your spouse value, and be aligned with what kind of family you want to build together.

PEP.ph: What do you think is also important to discuss with your family?

Joyce: I had to assure my family that nothing's gonna change with my relationship with them and that getting married doesn't mean I'm abandoning them.

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I also had to make them see and know my heart behind getting married.

And of course, I had to discuss my plans career-wise for them not to be worried about me also.

PEP.ph: Do you believe there is an "ideal age" to get married?

Joyce: I used to believe that, but I realized people have different timelines.

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You can never judge anybody for marrying late or early because only God can tell you when His perfect time is.

PEP.ph: Why do you think marriage is important?

Joyce: For me, marriage is important because it's a covenant between you, your spouse, and God.

It's one way of honoring God and also honoring your partner as well.

PEP.ph: Do you think a person will ever feel "ready" to get married?

Joyce: I think more than being "ready," it's really more of being prepared.

I don't think people would ever feel or say they're "ready" because when you're getting married, you're entering a new season in your life that you've never encountered before.

There's a lot of uncertainties, a lot of things that you will learn and have to learn, and you don't really know what to expect.

I think preparing your heart for all the changes and adjustments that come with marriage is the best thing to do.

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And I guess with most things in general, you won't realize you're "ready" unless you're already doing it.

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(L-R) Dani Barretto, Rica Peralejo, Joyce Ching, and Maricar Reyes talk about how they prepared themselves for marriage. Also in the photo: their respective husbands Xavi Panlilio, Pastor Joseph Bonifacio, Kevin Alimon, and Richard Poon.
PHOTO/S: Nice Print Photography / @ricaperalejo, @maricareyespoon on Instagram
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