Twenty-five years in January—that's how long Gladys Reyes and Christopher Roxas have been together, from the time they went "steady" to married status with four kids.
Apart from taking care of each other, Gladys and Christopher also share the responsibility of raising four kids, Christoph, Aquisha, Grant, and Gavin Cale.
But the two, who met on the set of Mara Clara, will be the first to tell you they don't have the perfect relationship.
They have had their share of ups and downs.
They even went through a separation before getting married.
How do they resolve their issues and get back into each other's arms?
On the ABS-CBN morning talk show Magandang Buhay, Gladys and Christopher revealed what helped them through the years.
First is communication.
"Siguro unang-una nag-uusap kami," Christopher began.
"Ang buhay namin ay hindi na para sa amin, kung hindi para sa mga bata.
"So bago mo isipin ang sarili ko, isipin mo muna ang mga bata."
Coming from a broken family, the dad of four knows it's a big deal for kids that their family is intact.
Second is intimacy.
Gladys pointed out, "Importante yung intimacy ninyong mag-asawa, kahit na gaano pa kayo katagal na mag-boyfriend o mag-asawa, hinding-hindi dapat nawawala yun,"
Intimacy doesn't only mean sex, but simple things such as text messages "na nakakapagpakilig" or spontaneous dates when they have the time.
"Kung walang time, gawan talaga ng time," Gladys stressed.
Third is don't waste time and energy on things you can't control.
"Pag may mga bagay na hindi natin kontrolado, wag mo nang pansisin," Christopher said, adding there is no use fighting over things you can't resolve, and asking questions that have no answers.
He suggested learning the art of letting go.
"Dapat mabilis ka mag-move on. Let go mo na kaagad para di mo na dinadala yung problems," he said.
The two also shared their take on some sticky issues that may plague some couples today.
Who handles the money?
"Ako naniniwala ako mas magaling maghawak ng pera ang babae. Kasi sa plano, kasama agad yung mga anak agad," Christopher said. It varies who's better at handling money, but Gladys had been doing it even before marriage.
When your wife has the bigger salary...
Christopher admitted that Gladys earns more than he does, but it should not matter.
"Kung ano yung sa kanya, ganun rin naman, sa akin rin naman yun," he said.
Gladys pointed out, "Kahit na, halimbawa lang to, ang kinikita ni mister P1,000, si misis P10,000, pero nagbigay sa iyo si mister at nag-intrega sa iyo, kahit gaano kaliit o mas malaki kesa dun sa kinikita mo, ang point nun nagbigay yun asawa mo ng pinaghirapan niya."
Indulging in luxury items...
Christopher said, "Basta hindi mo inaagaw sa bibig ng pamilya mo, sa tingin ko okay lang. Kelangan mo ring maging masaya.
"Hanapin mo lang yung ikasasaya mo talaga kasi pag masaya ka, bitbit mo sa loob ng bahay mo yun."
Gladys, who bought a vintage Camaro as an anniversary gift for her husband, agreed and mentioned that when Typhoon Ondoy flooded their home, it made her realize life is short.
Carving me-time after having kids...
Christopher stressed that it's essential. "Kasi dun ka mag-iisip, e, dun ka nagre-recharge," he explained.
For Gladys, it doesn't have to be grand. "Alam mo yung simple, quiet time lang alone, me-time na yun, e."
Gladys perfectly summed up in three words what makes their marriage work: "Prayer, patience, at partnership at, eto, nandito pa rin kami."
This story originally appeared on SmartParenting.com.ph.
* Minor edits have been made by the PEP.ph editors.