To wait or to search for The One? Stars share their thoughts

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Enchong Dee submits people tend to be impatient when it comes to love, and Janine Gutierrez posits maybe it is because "life is short."


This is an age-old quest, but the search for one's "soulmate" continues to be an obsession for many.

Social media have added to the pressure with hugot romance tales and fate-driven love stories being posted online.

PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) turns to the stars featured in this season's much-talked about romance films and series.

We ask them: Why is there so much pressure for people to find 'The One'?

These are their thoughts.

ENRIQUE GIL AND LIZA SOBERANO

Enrique, who currently stars with his girlfriend, Liza Soberano, in the film Alone / Together, points out that finding the right person is "very critical" because she will be your partner for life.

"Forever na iyan," he tells PEP.ph in an exclusive interview.

But he argues that, sometimes, it is best not to put much effort in the search.

Enrique says, speaking from experience, "Sometimes, it's also good not to search.

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"It's also good to sit down and let life take its course.

"Ganun ang ginawa ko, e. Hindi ako naghanap. It just came.

"That's what I said before I met her [Liza].

"Sabi ko, I won't search. Kung may dumating, darating.

"Sabi ko, after my last relationship, 'After nito, five years akong hindi magre-relationship.'

"Then bigla siyang dumating. True enough, may dumating."

Enrique believes that "searching" does not always lead to finding the one.

He explains, "Minsan kasi pag naghahanap ka, you're really searching... 'Okay na iyan kasi ganito siya.'

"Paano kapag hindi na siya ganyan at nag-iba na? E, di hindi na siya love?

"Yung mga naghahanap kasi, may basis ka na kung bakit ka naghahanap.

"Mas mabuti yung wala kang [criteria].

"When you can explain why you love that person, hindi love yung nasa isip mo.

"It's the qualities that you like or the qualities that you love about that person.

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"To really truly love a person is more than just their qualities, I think.

"It makes them up as a person, but it's more than that.

"For me love is unexplainable—unexplainable! You can't put a definite word for it. You cannot. If it hits you, it hits you."

Liza echoes Enrique, saying, "I actually don't know why. Siguro people around them are pressuring them.

"I really don't believe in looking for a partner or purposely searching for someone.

"Because if that person is for you, darating sila. I don't think you should go out looking for love...

"You might find someone wrong unintentionally."

JANINE GUTIERREZ AND ENCHONG DEE

The lead stars of romance film, Elise, also share their two cents on finding love.

For Janine, people feel pressured because life is short.

She says, "For me kasi, maikli yung buhay kaya may pressure talaga na huwag ka magsayang ng oras sa mga tao hindi naman nararapat para sa iyo.

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"At siyempre, since maikli yung buhay, dapat masaya ka, at nakakadagdag talaga ng happiness kung happy ka doon sa partner mo sa buhay."

Enchong, for his part, adds that people tend to be impatient when it comes to love.

He remarks, "Siguro kasi yung mga tao ngayon, gusto nila yung instant gratification na kapag gusto nila ngayon, gusto ngayon na dumating.

"Hindi naman ganun, e, mas lalo na sa pag-ibig. And minsan kapag hindi mo naman hinahanap, darating naman yun, e."

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DIONNE MONSANTO AND VANCE LARENA

At the recent preview screening of the YouTube series, FindHer, the same question was tossed to its lead stars.

Dionne, who is currently in a long-distance relationship, feels that the pressure to find a partner stems from social media.

She relates, "I think it's the whole social media standards... For example: Instagram has, parang, set standards for beauty, for fashion, for physique, for fitness, di ba? Gano'n.

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"For someone to be in a relationship has become so apparent, because you see all these #relationshipgoals.

"And I'm not for it... because I think we're all products of our generation. My generation did not really...

"There was no Facebook, so I don't feel the same pressure as the young ones today...

"This is not something that's, you know, a negative. I don't want to think of it or see it as negative."

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Dionne's co-star Vance agrees "Nape-pressure sila kasi, siguro sa factor na marami tayong nakikita na mga couples—

"They're posting pictures of them together, out-of-town trips, having their intimate vacations.

"I think, kaya sila nape-pressure, dahil doon."

The Bakwit Boys actor adds, "Noon naman, hindi naman sila nape-pressure, e, like tayo, di ba?

"Hindi naman tayo nape-pressure dati, e, na kailangan matic na magkaroon ako ng partner, kasi yung kaibigan ko meron.

"Considering may technology na, iba na ngayon. Siguro dun nanggagaling yung pressure sa mga millennials."

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