Buboy Villar vows not to be like his father

by Nikko Tuazon
Jun 27, 2021
Buboy Villar
Buboy Villar on his greatest achievement as a father: "Yung ako, nandiyan ako sa kanila. Kasi po ako, hindi ko naranasan na lagi kaming nagsasabay ng pamilya ko."
PHOTO/S: @buboyvillar on Instagram

Being a father at the age of 17 has really changed Buboy Villar's life.

The 22-year-old actor already has two kids—Vlanz Karollyn, 3, and George Michael, 1—with his former girlfriend Angillyn Serrano Gorens.

In a vlog dated June 27, 2021, Sunday, Buboy opened up to Toni Gonzaga about his experiences as a young dad.

For Buboy, the biggest lesson he learned when he became a father was to take care of himself.

He explained, "Unang-una sa lahat na dapat nating ingatan, ang sarili natin.

"Kasi kapag hindi natin iningatan yung sarili natin, paano na yung mga anak natin?

"Paano na yung future nila? Ayokong lumaki yung mga anak ko na kung ano man yung pinagdaanan ko.

"Hindi ko puwedeng i-judge yung mga anak ko na, 'Pag lumaki kayo, hindi niyo kaya yung pinagdaanan ko.' Hindi e, kasi iba-iba naman yung path namin, e."

BITTERSWEET MOMENT

Buboy also shared one bittersweet moment he had with his eldest child Vlanz.

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The Kapuso actor revealed that there was a time when he cried since he couldn't see his kids.

He recalled, "Yung three years old ko na anak, parang ano na, parang dalaga na magsalita.

"As in, minsan pag nasa taping ako, nag-lock-in taping ako nitong huli, yung Oh My Love, sinabi niya, 'Papa, hindi mo na ako miss, hindi ka na umuuwi dito,' sabi niya.

"Sabi ko, e hindi ko siya nakausap nang ganun, umiyak ako. Umiyak ako noon kasi first time ko makaranas ng ganun, e.

"Hindi po kasi ako maka-tatay, kasi tatay ko kasi talaga nanggugulpi dati.

"Kumbaga, yung feeling ng pagiging tatay, dun ko lang naranasan na, 'Shocks, ang sarap tapos ang sakit.'

"Masarap, kasi may anak akong ganun, sobrang sweet, hinahanap ako. Kasi wala namang naghahanap sa akin, e.

"Tapos, masakit, kasi wala ako dun. Kumbaga kailangan kong gawin yung trabaho ko siyempre. Sakripisyo para sa kanila."

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NOT LIKE MY FATHER

As a father, Buboy tries to give everything he can to his kids.

But one thing he is proud of is seeing his kids grow up—something he didn't experience with his own father.

Buboy promised himself that he will never let his kids go through what he experienced with his abusive father.

He said, "Yung ako, nandiyan ako sa kanila. Kasi po ako, hindi ko naranasan na lagi kaming nagsasabay ng pamilya ko.

"Kasi nga lumaki yung pamilya ko sa alcohol siyempre. Mahilig uminom yung tatay ko, tapos kada gabi, nagugulpi kami, yung nanay ko.

"Nakikita ko yung nanay ko tumatagos yung ulo sa pader. Hindi naman yung pader na bato, yung kisame. Tumatagos yung ulo ng nanay ko, pag lasing yung tatay ko."

Buboy later clarified that he now has a good relationship with his father, who is currently staying with him.

"Although ayaw ko silang i-judge, e. Ngayon, ayaw kong i-judge yung... Dati galit ako sa tatay ko, as in, sobra. Sinumpa ko pa yung tatay ko dati.

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"Nung naging tatay ako, mas naramdaman ko yung pagiging tatay na kahit... kahit anong sama nung tatay mo, mapapatawad at mapapatawad mo pa rin siya, e."

The young actor further recalled, "Dinalaw ko yung tatay ko noon, sinabi ko sa tatay ko, 'Kahit na hindi ka tumayong tatay sa amin, ayusin mo na lang yung buhay mo bilang isang tao.

'Kasi ako, tinitignan kita as a tatay, kahit na wala ka namang ginawang mabuti para sa akin, or marami kang sacrifice na ginawa noon, thank you kasi nabuhay ako.'

'Ayusin mo, kasi ayokong mahirapan ka. Kasi kaya ako nagtrabaho, para sa inyong lahat, e.' Para sa nanay ko, sa pamilya ko, mabigyan ng magandang kinabukasan.

"Ayokong ako yung mismong makasira, dapat makita nila yun.

"Lagi kong pinagdadasal na makita nilang lahat yun, na kahit na hindi kami lumaki sa... alam niyo iyun? Alam namin yung buhay na parang may mga manners, di ba?

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"Hindi naman kami ganun, kumbaga, laking kalsada kami. Kumbaga, kung anong maisipan namin, ibibitaw namin. Kung anong, 'Inuman tayo lahat,' ganyan."

LIFE LESSONS

For Buboy, taking responsibility is one of the life lessons he learned when he became a teen father. It's also something he wishes for others who are also going through the same experience.

He said, "Mga batang ama, minsan mangyayari sa buhay nila, tinatakasan nila. Sa akin, hindi ko maisip, e.

"Bakit? Bakit natin gagawin yun, e unang-una sa lahat, nakikita mo yung anak mo, dugo mo yun. Nung narinig ko yung umiiyak, sabi ko, 'Anak ko yun!'

"Pag bukas nung curtain sa NICU, sabi ko, 'Amputi nung bata na yun o, hindi ko kamukha, akin yun! Akin yun! Mukhang foreigner, akin yun!' Yun ang nag-iisang foreigner.

"Nung nangyari sa akin yun, ang sabi sa akin... nag-isip-isip muna ako bago umakyat yung mag-ina ko, 'Tatay na ako, tatay na ako.'"

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Asked about a lesson that he would pass on to his own children, Buboy muses, "Kailangan nilang tibayan yung loob nila at huwag masyado magpapadala sa problema. Lagi lang sila ngingiti kasi dun lang sila maganda at guwapo.

"Unang-una sa lahat, lagi nilang titignan yung positive side. Huwag nating tambayan yung mga negative."

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Buboy Villar on his greatest achievement as a father: "Yung ako, nandiyan ako sa kanila. Kasi po ako, hindi ko naranasan na lagi kaming nagsasabay ng pamilya ko."
PHOTO/S: @buboyvillar on Instagram
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