Part of parents’ daily goal is to make sure there’s harmony at home.
But when you have three active kids, whose ages are so close to each other, petty fights are inevitable.
Cheska Garcia—mom of Kendra, 7, Scarlet, 5, and Gavin, 3—revealed to PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) at the recent launch of Fujifilm’s Photo Diary in Discover Suites, how sibling fights are handled at the Kramer household.
She began, “Very petty things. Toys, who got it first. ‘That’s my chair.’
“Kung ano yung mga pinag-aawayan natin nung mga bata pa tayo sa mga kapatid natin, ganun din yun.”
Normally, it’s her husband Doug who acts as the referee.
Cheska said, “…pagdating sa disiplina, parang mas iniiwan ko yun ke Doug.
“Ako yung parang everyday na nagre-remind, ‘O, kailangan mo nang maligo o kailangan mo nang mag-aral.’
“But when it comes to disciplining the kids, I would rather have one point person. Yung talagang nakikipag-usap sa kanila.”
THE TRICKS. Telling them to stop is one thing, telling them to forgive each other is another.
Cheska said, “When Doug is not around, I pull my kids, I talk to them one by one.”
What if that does not work?
“…When they don’t wanna budge, and they don’t wanna give in, forgive each other, I gather them close together.
"Make them hug each other until they’re ready to say sorry.
“So nag-aaway sila, later, ‘Hug, don’t let go until I tell you to let go.’
“So they’re hugging until they end up laughing, because it’s a light moment.
“And, you know, they forgive each other.
“With my children, I realized that that’s the trick of getting them to be friends again.”