How single mom Bettina Carlos answers "Who is my dad?" question of daughter Gummy

by FM Ganal
May 16, 2018
Single mom Bettina Carlos (right) have always dreaded the question, "Who is my dad?" But she knows that it is a question she cannot avoid forever.

Aside from doing twice the heavy lifting in parenthood, some single parents face the hurdle of answering the question: "Who is my dad" or "Who is my mom?"

Bettina Carlos admitted to PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) it was the moment she had been dreading.

She said, "Kasi kung puwede hindi ‘yon tanungin ng anak nila, sana hindi na lang talaga."

The single mom shared how her seven-year-old daughter, Gummy, posed the question to her.

"She asked, siguro, a year or two ago. Yung mga questions niya nag-e-evolve, e.

"Nung una, ‘How do you make babies?’

"Ang explanation ko, ‘Ahhh… you know, when you have a partner…’

"Hanggang sa yung tanong, ‘Who’s your partner?’

"Hindi ko alam kung paano sagutin! Na off-guard ako, e.

"Then eventually, she asked."

Bettina was with Gummy when she talked to PEP.ph during a mini cooking workshop last May 8, at SM Megamall.

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The 30-year-old celebrity mom said that as a single parent it was something she needed to face one day.

"It’s something that we are responsible for because it will complete them, e.

"That’s a piece, a puzzle of their life that we can’t forever withhold from them because it will complete them.

"Sabi ko lang sa kanya, ‘Anak, I’ll tell you when you’re older.’

"[Gummy] asked this, I think, two weeks before she turned four.

"‘When, mom? When I’m four?’

"‘No!’

"‘When? When I’m five?’

"‘No, maybe when you’re 8 or 12 or 18, I don’t know!’ sabi ko sa kanya.

"But she knows that there are things that I can answer.

"And there are those that I cannot yet and she understands why."

Bettina also knew that, one day, Gummy would want to meet her father.

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But she reminded herself, "They say lang naman when kids ask, you just answer their question.

"One time, she asked the name, and then I said it. Wala nang tanong after that.

"Kasi our tendency as single parents, iniisip na natin yung hanggang pagkikita na, e.

"E, ang tinanong lang, ‘Sino yung tatay ko’, di ba?

"So, just take it one question at a time.

"And when you’re not ready, basing it on the emotionally capacity of your child to absorb and understand...

"You just take it one step at a time."

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Single mom Bettina Carlos (right) have always dreaded the question, "Who is my dad?" But she knows that it is a question she cannot avoid forever.
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