Wendy Valdez asking for prayers as one-year-old son undergoes hip surgery

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Wendy Valdez asks prayer support for her one-year-old son Seth who is scheduled to undergo hip surgery


Wendy Valdez got emotional on Instagram when she revealed her one-year-old son, Seth, would be undergoing hip surgery.

Early in the year, the former Pinoy Big Brother housemate opened up about Seth's medical condition.

Seth's hip bone is not in the right position, and he needs to wear braces to keep it aligned.

He was born with spina bifida, a condition that "happens when a baby is in the womb and the spinal column does not close all of the way."

READ: Wendy Valdez reveals her one-year-old son has spina bifida

Some time in August 2018, Wendy reported that Seth no longer needed to wear his hip brace for the whole day.

The celebrity mom wrote, "After 4 months in a harness and 7 months in a brace, night time niya na lang daw isusuot ang hip brace niya, sa araw puwede nang wala.

"If the hips would hold up during the 2 week observation of not wearing the brace at daytime, puwede na siya ulit mag-therapy."

READ: Wendy Valdez gives update about son's medical condition

Wendy and her husband Normann Garcia were grateful for the progress, but their celebration did not last long.

Early this week, Wendy gave another update about Seth's condition in a lengthy four-part Instagram post.

In the first post, she recounted the heartbreaking news that Seth's hip bone was out of place again.

"IT'S OK TO CRY AND BE SAD," she began.

"I felt my heart pound when they were giving me the X-ray for Seth's hip. What could go wrong? We celebrated him being out of his hip brace at day time, and we are just getting another check up to be sure...

"Then they handed it to me... With so many X-rays already done to Seth's hip, I [knew] already what I [needed] to see.

"Is it in? 

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"I pulled the film, and my heart sank. His hip was out again.

"Apparently, when he kicks, it comes out. But when he is relaxed, it is in."

Because of this development, doctors recommended Wendy and Normann's next option—spica casting.

Wendy continued, "Seth's legs would be cemented in place for 3 months, so he won't be able to move until the hip would build strong ligaments to hold it.

"I felt down and wanted to cry.

"My baby, who is starting to roll over and sit on his own, would wake up and he won't be able to move again..

"Why wouldn't I be sad with situations like that?"

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SETH UPDATE PART1 IT’S OK TO CRY AND BE SAD I felt my heart pound when they were giving me the Xray for Seth’s hip. What could go wrong? We celebrated him being out of his hip brace at day time, and we are just getting another check up to be sure. Before that, we were so happy waiting for Seth’s turn. Laughing and playing around with his dad. Then they handed it to me... With so many xrays already done to Seth’s hip, I know already what I need to see. Is it in? I pulled the film,and my heart sank. His hip was out again. Apparently, when he kicks, it comes out. But when he is relaxed, it is in. . So it won’t develop completely, no matter how long Seth would be in a brace, because it keeps coming off when he moves. . I didn’t know what to feel.. . After all those times that he was in a harness and braces. . Doctor said we have to try the next possible solution, which is spica casting. Seth’s legs would be cemented in place for 3 months, so he won’t be able to move until the hip would build strong ligaments to hold it. . I felt down, and wanted to cry. My baby who is starting to roll over, and sit on his own, would wake up, and he won’t be able to move again. Why wouldn’t I be sad with situations like that? I am a Christian, and I have hope in Christ. Yes that’s true; but tears are made by God for a reason. They are there, because in times like these, they need to come out. Or else our hearts will be hardened in stoicsm, and pretension that everything is OK, even when it’s not. . Seth have to go through these things. I don’t want him to, even if I know that they quickly adapt. . I have learned, that we can’t try to minimize any hurt that goes through a heart of a person. Pain is pain for whoever faces it. They have different levels, but it’s not a consolation of "it’s not worse than so and so, or at least he is alive, or deny the emotions, that could help someone go through it, or just suck it up, and be strong". Compassion, and prayers are what a broken heart needs. To allow ourselves, and others to feel sorrow. It’s Ok to not be Ok, when you are in pain. . So I told myself, its OK to be sad and cry. . PART 2 ON MY NEXT POST Ecclesiastes 3:1,4

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PERSEVERANCE AND LONG SUFFERING

Wendy talked about keeping the faith in her second post.

She continued, "I thought of all those times that we worked hard around his harness and his brace. All those late, long nights that we have to go to his doctor to see if the braces are helping.

"I thought, 'Are all those for nothing? We achieved nothing? What was all that for?'

"Then two words in my head... 'Perseverance' and 'long suffering.'

"It dawned on me that those are what God is trying to bless me with in this process. That's why He said I can trust [the process] and Him ultimately...

"I wanted healing for Seth, but He wanted to give me more valuable gifts than that. Fruits for my life eternal. What money can't buy... God never stops working. He wants me to be more like Christ..."

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SETH UPDATE PART 2 (PART 1 ON MY PREVIOUS POST) ALL THOSE FOR NOTHING? GENUINE BLESSINGS . ---At home, as I was prepping Seth to sleep, I thought of all those times,that we worked hard around his harness, and his brace. All those late, long nights, that we have to go to his doctor to see if the braces are helping. I thought ; "Are all those for nothing? We achieved nothing? What was all that for"? Then two words light bulbed in my head, and made me pause. ’Perseverance’ and ’long- suffering’. "What?" "Perseverance, and long suffering?" . It dawned on me that those are what God is trying to bless me with, in this process. That’s why He said I can trust it, and Him ultimately. He is achieving in me, an eternal weight of glory. I wanted healing for Seth, but He wanted to give me more valuable gifts than that. Fruits for my life eternal. What money can’t buy. What hard work on my own, or deciding to have it, would not give birth to it, in my heart. God never stops working. He wants me to be more like Christ. . ---He is creating in me, perseverance and long suffering. I searched the dictionary and this is what came out.... . Perseverance - steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. Long-suffering - having or showing patience in spite of troubles, especially those caused by other people. . ----Those are such wonderful gifts isn’t it? So much better than what we think are important. A character remolding. What’s good for us may be different from what is good for God. It’s not always good health or wealth, tho He could give them and make life easy. Any god promises to give those, but the God of the bible, longs to give so much more. In this case, a healed hip would be great, but God believes perseverance and long suffering would be amazing. . James 1:4  Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. . ---God wants perseverance to finish its work in me, so I would be COMPLETE and MATURE. God wants me to lack nothing good, through the life of His son Jesus, and through the life of my son Seth. . OK Lord, I will let perseverance finish its work. ❤️ PART 3 ON MY NEXT POST

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In her third Instagram post, Wendy fully internalized the words "perseverance" and "long suffering," reminding herself to trust the Lord.

"Sometimes, we are just in that moment where we have to wait and go through that waiting in uncertainty and hope. Hope that we may get what we pray for, and uncertainty of what's next.

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"The answer to our prayer maybe a yes or a no. I have learned that while in this season of waiting... I can go on, and actually live in this moment. Not putting my all my hope on a yes, but IN CHRIST. Trusting Him that in this place, where nobody really likes being into, God is doing something. In my heart.. In the process.. And I get to know Him, and worhsip Him.

"As always, He will be here with me.

"Making every waiting time so worth it... 

"Perseverance and long suffering. Such wonderful gifts I never thought would ever be alive in my heart...

"For now, I could be sad, I could cry, but I could also REJOICE for what's to come and even with what is here NOW... A BEAUTIFUL JOURNEY OF REAL LIFE, overcoming WITH CHRIST."

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SETH UPDATE PART 3 (PART 2 ON MY PREVIOUS POST) NOT A HAPPY ENDING As much as I wanted to say that Seth’s hip is now in its perfect place and everything is going well for him, I couldn’t wait for that to happen before I share you this story. Why? Because in reality, we all go through those moments of "No Happy endings". Sounds cynical I know, but hear me out. It’s not a happy ending, because maybe the story hasn’t ended yet; and we may have a happy one for Seth’s hip after all. Though, that is not always the case. . Sometimes, we are just in that moment where we have to wait ; and go through that waiting in uncertainty and hope. Hope that we may get what we pray for, and uncertainty of what’s next. The answer to our prayer maybe a yes, or a no. I have learned, that while in this season of waiting for an answer to my prayers; I can go on, and actually live in this moment. Not putting my all my hope on a yes, but IN CHRIST. Trusting Him that in this place, where nobody really likes being into. God is doing something. In my heart.. In the process.. And I get to know Him, and worhsip Him. As always, He will be here with me. Making every waiting time so worth it. . I have come to like being here, only because I know God is doing something, when He let’s me wait. True enough, He gave me a glimpse of what He is trying to achieve. Perseverance and long suffering. Such wonderful gifts I never thought, would ever be alive in my heart. . He is faithful isn’t He? He said he would finish what He started in me😊😔, and He is doing just that. For now, I could be sad, I could cry, but I could also REJOICE for what’s to come, and even with what is here NOW. Running with ENDURANCE the race marked for me. It’s NOT A HAPPY ENDING, but A BEAUTIFUL JOURNEY OF REAL LIFE, overcoming WITH CHRIST. ❤️ . PS. Thank you everyone for sending me stories about Roman Dinkle who walked, and told his dog Maggie. Such an inspiration. With spina bifida, there are no two cases a like. So let’s see how Seth’s story would turn out. . LAST PART ON MY NEXT POST

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SECOND DIAGNOSIS

Wendy talked more about Seth's surgery in her fourth post.

At first, she and her husband tried to keep Seth's hip in place with "a tighter, more secure brace."

They noticed that "it held for a moment," but when their remedy no longer worked, they brought Seth to a new doctor for a second opinion.

That was when they found out that both hip bones were out of its place, and were told Seth needed surgery.

Wendy continued, "[The doctor] believes surgery is a better option, because [Seth] would be put in a cast still any other way. My husband and I decided to stick to this diagnosis."

The mother of one cried her heart out, "Kung iyakin ako noon, mas iyakin siguro ako ngayon.

"Ang difference lang ngayon, Kay God na ko umiiyak, Hindi sa alak...

"I cried the day after I was told he needed operation. And maybe a series of them. Was told that a surgery is not a guarantee.

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"Of course, God is in complete control...

"I am asking for your prayers for Seth once again. Before his operation, for him to be strong and prepared.

"For full recovery and no complications...

"While he is on a cast, for us to adapt and manage well.

"Of course, for his hips to be secured where they need to be.

"I will miss him trying to crawl and sitting by himself.

"I pray that he won't get bored, and we will be able to care for him and clean him properly on a cast.

"Will update again on the day of his operation."

 

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SETH UPDATE PART 4 (PART 3 ON PREVIOUS POST) OPERATION INSTEAD So these posts about Seth, I have written probably a couple of months ago, we tried to hold Seth’s hips in place with a tighter more secure brace. It held for a moment, but after a month, and going to a second opinion, Seth’s hip was out again, and this time even the left hip. So now there are two hips out of it’s place. . The new doctor, said he believes surgery is a better option, because he would be put in a cast still, any other way. My husband and I decided to stick to this diagnosis. . We just need to get the clearance for Seth, then push through with the surgery. But along these things, we decided to transfer to a much nearer place, to where my husband works. We have a new home. (Will post soon about it) So the surgery is postponed until we can get everything in order. Then Seth got terribly sick recently, because of a virus, that we rushed him to the hospital. Good thing, he didn’t get confined, and got better eventually. I have been so so so busy, and my mind was all over the place. With so many things, and details that I have to assist to. I also undwent a D&C because I had a molar pregnancy. I realized that my life have always been full spices, and flavor. Never a dull, or at least steady moment with me. Oh my... . I could not imagine all these without God. His grace sustains me, and his joy is my strength. . I cried the day after I was told he needed operations. And maybe a series of them. Was told that a surgery is not a guarantee. Of course, God is in complete control. . Kung iyakin ako noon, mas iyakin siguro ako ngayon. Ang difference lang ngayon, Kay God na ko umiiyak, Hindi sa alak. . So I am asking for your prayers for Seth once again. Before his operation, for him to be strong,and prepared. For full recovery and no complications, and while he is on a cast, for him, and us to adapt and manage well. Of course, for his hips to be secured where they need to be. I will miss him trying to crawl, and sitting by himself. I pray that he won’t get bored, and we will be able to care for him and clean him properly on a cast. . Will update again on the day of his operation.

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