Rudy Fernandez allowed his widow Lorna Tolentino to marry again


Rudy Fernandez gave his widow Lorna theoption to entertain suitors and remarry. But they would have to pass through "the eye of a needle," that is, the approval of Rudy's friends who're all telling her now, "Hindi puwede!"



A week has passed since action superstar Rudy Fernandezpassed away, and it's been only three days since he was buried at Heritage Park.Now alone and facing the future, Rudy's widow Lorna Tolentinoponders what to do and how to go on with life without her husband of 25years.

A few hours after the actor's burial, StarTalk's LolitSolis interviewed her co-host and friend Lorna on her plans regardingeverything Daboy left behind.

"Ngayon na mag-isa ka na lang at wala na si Rudy, ano angnasa isip mo ngayon?" Lolit asked.

"Parang kagaya din noon na live each day at a time," Lornaanswered. "Yun ang parati kong sinasabi, di ba? Na mahirap pangunahan yungpwedeng mangyari. Basta't kung ano na lang, paggising mo sa umaga, saka mo naisipin kung ano dadating at kung ano pa at dapat gawin. Parang ayoko i-plano."

RUDY'S BIRTHDAY GIFTS. "Di ba, nag-birthday si Rudy nung March 3, right after,nagpunta kayo sa U.S.?" Lolit followed. "Balita ko nakakalat pa sa loob ngkuwarto yung birthday gift. Ano ang naalala mo nung nakita mo yun?"

"Hindi ko nga alam kung papaano," Lorna pondered. "Kungbubuksan ko, saan ko ilalagay, saan ko itatabi...hindi ko naman maisip. Siguroibibigay ko sa mga bata kasi sila naman talaga—si Mark, si Renz, at si Ralph—e,sila pumili kung ano ang gusto nila."

Lolit asked, "Natakot ka ba sa thought na mag-isa ka nalang?"

"Nagpapalakas ng loob ko siyempre, e, mga anak ko," Lornarevealed. "Alam ko na mag-isa na lang ako, pero kung panghihinaan ako ng loob,kawawa din naman yung mga anak ko. Yun ang naisip ko."

RUDY'S BILINS ABOUTTHEIR SONS. One of Rudy's last wishes was for Lorna to take good care oftheir sons, especially now that they are without a father.

"Actually, naghabilin siya sa mga bata talaga," Lornaadmitted. "Katulad kay Renz na huwag nang...si Renz kasi nagkaroon ng hilig sapoker. Yung ano naman na games...so sabi ni Rudy na huwag na nga [ipagpatuloy].Sabi naman ni Renz na ‘Oo, Papa. Hindi na.' So mayroon din siyang mga bilin sakanya na alam niya na hindi makakabuti sa mga bata later on."

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Lorna, however, expressed her worries for her kids.

"Kahit papaano, e, mabubuti naman mga anak namin. Madalinaman silang makinig. Yun lang, na ikinakatakot ko yung papaano din silalalakas. Tahimik mga anak ko at hindi mo naman malalaman yung sakit nanararamdaman nila. Sana magamit nila yung sakit na yun na mapabuti lalo sila.Hindi maging outcome, e, pagrerebelde."

What is her message to her kids?

"Huwag naming itigil yung pag-uusap, yung communicationnamin," Lorna answered. "Sa mga nararamdaman namin. ‘Pag alam naming ang isa'tisa...hindi na itinatago ang mga deep loss namin. Doon mo malalaman angweaknesses namin."

UNEXPECTED VISIT. Thejoker in Rudy may prompt him to visit Lorna. As Lolit said, "Di ba, si Rudypalabiro? Baka sa mga araw na ito, dumalaw siya, magparamdam."

"Pinag-usapan namin yun, ‘Nay, eh," Lorna said. "Sinabi kosa kanya na welcome na welcome. Pero kung hindi naman, sabi ko sa kanya, e,i-guide niya ako."

RUDY'S SURPRISINGBILIN TO LORNA. Lorna revealed that Rudy told her that it was okay with himif Lorna entertained suitors again.

"Oo naman, yun din. Isa yun sa mga bilin niya," Lorna said."At may ibinilin din siya sa akin na may iba siyang alam na kaibigan—hindinaman kaibigan—kakilala na dapat kong iwasan."

When Lolit's eyes lit up, Lorna just laughed and by thelooks of it, Lorna has no intention to reveal who exactly Rudy told her toavoid. Changing the subject, Lolit asked when Lorna would return to work.

"Gusto ko lang muna ayusin lahat ng dapat ayusin pa. Gustoniya na kunin ko yung mga magulang niya at mga kapatid niya [their remains] atsama-sama sila [sa Heritage]. Yun ang isa sa mga pakiusap niya sa akin. At ‘pagnaayos din ang bahay...e, ang isa din sa plano ko, e, lumipat na muna."

MISSING DABOY ONFATHER'S DAY. Lorna said that what she misses most about Daboy was hissmile.

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"Iba tumawa si Rudy," Lorna fondly said. "Iba ang ngitiniya. Yung pagiging organize din niya sa lahat ng bagay."

So, what are her plans for Father's Day?

"Dito lang kami sa Heritage," Lorna said.

What is Lorna's message to Rudy, as if he were just around?

"Yung kanyang buhay, alam ko, isa a life well-lived. Mabuti yung mga itinanim niya sa lahat ng tao kaya well-loved din siya. Yung battle na dinaanan niya, kumbaga, inspirasyon sa lahat, di ba, yung paglaban niya sa laban na yun, e, hindi niya talaga sinukuan hanggang sa huling sandali. Talagang lumaban siya nang husto. 'Tapos marami siyang ibinigay na lakas na pagkamahina kami, titingnan namin, e."

LORNA ACCEPTS BEING AWIDOW. Recently, Lorna has beenwearing black instead of the usual colored prints. For her, this is a statementthat she is now a widow.

"Parang ang white, e, para magaan lang for everybody and forhim kasi parang ang last na gusto niya na last na suotin, eh white. But now, Ifeel the heaviness and it's not that light anymore. Parte yun, na ayokotanggapin na biyuda na ako, pero yun talaga. So sige, might as well wearblack."

Was Rudy strict about his wish that his family must notmourn for him?

"Siguro naman bibigyan niya ako ng leeway," Lorna said."Because I tried not to cry, I tried to be strong, I tried to have that couragena gusto niya. Siguro ngayon, pagbigyan niya naman ako."

LORNASAYS HER MANY THANKS TO ALL THEIR FRIENDS. "Maramingsalamat sa mga taong pumunta at nakiramay sa amin. Alam ko namaligayang-maligaya si Rudy dahil yun ang gusto niya na may makakita sa kanya.I know he's very happy and fulfilled. Yung mga kaibigan na tumulong. Nakitakasi nila na sa dinaanan namin...maraming salamat sa nagpadala ng bulaklak! Samga nagpadala ng pagkain...yung dapat alalahanin, e, hindi na aalahanin, somaraming salamat sa lahat!"

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MOVING ON. In a separate interview, StarTalk co-host ButchFrancisco asked Lorna if moving on was part of her fight against loneliness night after nightafter Rudy was gone.

Lorna answered, “Pagpasok namin [sa bahay], wala akongsinabi kung hindi, ‘Papa…papa…’ Iniisip ko na he’s around and I believe that heis around.”

How about the first night? Did she spend it alone in thebedroom or was she with the kids?

“Si Ralph sa baba, si Renz sa tabi ko. 'Tapos lumipat si Ralph…salitan sila para medyomaluwag.”

However, Lorna couldn’t sleep. She revealed, “Yung tulogko, putul-putol. Hindi siya ganun kasarap, na iba pa rin na alam mo na nandiyanlang. So tuwing babangon ako, punta ng banyo. Pagbalik ko, iiyak ako.

"'Tapos,nakakatulog naman ako ulit. Kasi, 'pag tumingin ka sa paligid mo, nandoon lahat,e. Kahit sa bagay, on every corner ng house, nandoon siya [Rudy]. Everything na makitamo, nandoon siya. Alam mo yun, marami kaming ginawa talaga na bagay na haloslahat nandodoon sa loob ng kuwarto.”

Did she at any point felt Rudy’s spiritual presence?

“Wala pa,” Lorna said. “Except that alam ko na nararamdamanko na nandiyan siya. He’s just there, looking at us, guiding us.”

Well if ever Rudy decides to “visit," would Lorna welcomeit?

“Pinag-usapan namin yun. Anytime. Huwag lang niya akobibiglain, ha!” Lorna laughed. Then she added, “Mamaya tumalbog puso ko!"

SUITORS. Butch related how former President Joseph Estrada toldLorna that she shouldn’t marry immediately. How’s Lorna taking this?

Lorna laughingly answered, “Lahat naman sila, e, parang ‘O,ha. Hindi puwede!’ Ang dami nilang [suitors] dadaanan! Kawawa nga, e. Hinde konaman iniisip yun.

Then Lorna quipped, “So, sorry na lang kung meron pero waladin sa isip ko kung sino man ang naghahangad, sana hopefully, well…” It was allmeant as a joke, but still, Lorna looked up, smiled and apologetically said,“Sorry, Papa! Joke!”

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