Indie actress Barbara Ruaro reveals being a victim of physical abuse

by Jet Hitosis
Sep 9, 2019
Indie film actress Barbara Ruaro shares on Instagram a series of photos about the alleged physical abuse that she suffered recently, "done by someone I loved and cared for deeply."
PHOTO/S: @bieruaro on Instagram

Sa pamamagitan ng mga litratong ipinost niya sa Instagram, ibinunyag ng indie film actress na si Barbara Ruaro ang mga dinanas niyang pang-aabuso mula umano sa kanyang dating partner.

Ginulat ni Barbara ang kanyang halos 9,000 Intagram followers sa kuwentong nasa likod ng ipinost niya kahapon, September 8, na serye ng mga litratong nagpapakita ng “just half of the damage done to my body.”

Ang unang litrato ay close-up ng kanyang blackeye, na sinundan ng picture ng sugat niya sa likod ng tenga, at ng mga pasa sa iba’t ibang bahagi ng kanyang katawan.

“The series of photos posted are just half of the damage done to my body,” bahagi ng mahabang kuwento ni Barbara.

“The internal wounds keep me up night, while my abuser is still running free.”

Hindi pinangalanan ni Barbara ang dating karelasyon, na inaakusahan niyang nanakit umano sa kanya sa loob ng halos isang taon.

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BARBARA USED TO BLAME HER PTSD

Anang aktres sa caption, “Some people have told me not to dwell and just move on.

“Some people have suggested that exposing his name to the public will bring me instant gratification.

“Some people think it's my fault because I stayed, kept silent, and enabled him...”

Ayon kay Barbara, matagal niyang tiniis ang mga pang-aabuso ng suspek, at sinisi ang sarili at ang kanyang PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) kapag “he treated me badly.”

“Time and time again, I was made to feel everything was my fault.

“That if he treated me badly, it was because I deserved it.

“That everytime I reacted negatively to his abuse, it was a result of my PTSD and not the abuse itself.”

Batay pa sa kuwento ni Barbara, hindi lang umano pisikal na pananakit ang tiniis niya sa kamay ng dating boyfriend.

Giit ng aktres, bine-“brainwash” din umano siya ng kanyang partner para tigilan na niya ang pag-arte, at tinatakot umano siyang magpapakamatay ito kapag iniwan niya.

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Patuloy pang kuwento ni Barbara, “He used my weaknesses against me, brainwashing me into believing no one will ever understand me like he does.

“He asked me several times to quit my career and just devote my life to him.

“He said we have dreams to fulfill, and don't I ever leave or he will commit suicide.”

ALLEGEDLY THREATENED, ISOLATED

Ibinulgar din ni Barbara kung paanong kinokontrol umano ng kanyang ex-boyfriend maging ang kanyang mga kilos, at maging ang pakikisalamuha niya sa kanyang mga kamag-anak at mga kaibigan.

“I wasn't allowed to leave the room, even if he broke things in front of me with his hands,” kuwento ni Barbara.

“I was isolated from my friends and family, and the only chance I'd get to see people was if I needed to be at work.”

Tiniyak naman ng aktres na papanagutin niya ang dating partner sa kanyang sinapit.

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“I promised myself if I'm going to fight for this case, I'm going to do it right,” aniya.

Isang netizen ang nagkomento at nag-suggest kay Barbara na kasuhan ng paglabag sa Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children (Republic Act 9262) ang umabuso sa kanya.

Positibong sumagot ang aktres ng “I have,” at nagpasalamat sa netizen.

A CASE HAS BEEN FILED

Sa panayam ngayong Lunes, September 9, ng PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) kay Barbara sa pamamagitan ng direct message sa Instagram, kinumpirma ng aktres na kinasuhan na niya ang suspek.

Gayunman, sinabi ng aktres na hindi pa siya maaaring magbigay ng anumang detalye tungkol sa kaso sa ngayon.

Sinabi ni Barbara sa PEP.ph, "I am just focusing on doing this properly and recovering from the abuse.

"I am scared, but I will fight," dagdag pa niya.

Ang sinumang mapatutunayang lumabag sa RA 9262 ay maaaring makulong ng ilang taon, depende sa naging paglabag, at pagmumultahin ng hindi bababa sa P500,000.

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“I WILL MAKE SURE JUSTICE IS SERVED”

Kasabay nito, sa kanyang post ay nagpasalamat din si Barbara sa mga taong sumusuporta sa kanya, at pinaghuhugutan niya ng lakas ngayong siya ay “very very afraid.”

“My self is my top priority now.

“My faith, family, and friends are what keep me strong, especially during days when I get the sense that all hope is lost.

“I am very very afraid, but I won't be silenced by the fear he has instilled.

“Not this time. I will make sure justice is served.

“Thank you to all those who have been there for me through these trying times.

“I wouldn't know what to do without you guys (heart emoji). Maraming salamat sainyo.”

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Some people have told me not to dwell and just move on. Some people have suggested that exposing his name to the public will bring me instant gratification. Some people think it's my fault because I stayed, kept silent, and enabled him... I promised myself if I'm going to fight for this case, I'm going to do it right. The series of photos posted are just half of the damage done to my body. The internal wounds keep me up night, while my abuser is still running free. Time and time again, I was made to feel everything was my fault. That if he treated me badly, it was because I deserved it. That everytime I reacted negatively to his abuse, it was a result of my PTSD and not the abuse itself. He used my weaknesses against me, brainwashing me into believing no one will ever understand me like he does. He asked me several times to quit my career and just devote my life to him. He said we have dreams to fulfill, and don't I ever leave or he will commit suicide. I wasn't allowed to leave the room, even if he broke things in front of me with his hands. I was isolated from my friends and family, and the only chance I'd get to see people was if I needed to be at work. And that was just the beginning. I am healing and processing; it doesn't just end when you walk out the door. My self is my top priority now. My faith, family, and friends are what keep me strong, especially during days when I get the sense that all hope is lost. I am very very afraid, but I won't be silenced by the fear he has instilled. Not this time. I will make sure justice is served. Thank you to all those who have been there for me through these trying times. I wouldn't know what to do without you guys ???? Maraming salamat sainyo.

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Kasabay nito, may Instagram Stories din ang aktres kahapon, September 8, na nagdedetalye kung paanong “THE ABUSER TRIES TO ISOLATE HIS VICTIM.”

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May pagpapaliwanag din si Barbara sa magkakaibang paraan ng pang-aabuso, gaya ng pisikal at seksuwal.

ENDING THE "VICIOUS CYCLE"

Huwebes, September 5, nang unang mag-post si Barbara tungkol sa pananakit umano sa kanya ng dating karelasyon, bukod pa umano sa “almost a year of psychological manipulation.”

Kalakip ang litrato ng pasa sa talukap ng kanyang mata, sinabi ni Barbara na, “This happened to me yesterday, on top of other cuts, bruises, and almost a year of psychological manipulation.

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“Done by someone I loved and cared for deeply.”

Ipinaliwanag pa ng aktres ang lawak ng mga pang-aabusong nasasaklawan ng domestic violence—na naranasan niya umanong lahat.

“Domestic violence is not limited in terms of bruises.

“Psychological, verbal, and sexual abuse are also considered.

“I experienced all sorts of abuse under the hand of a narcissistic man.

“The vicious cycle he has created for himself and others should be put to a stop. I will share my story soon.”

Kasama si Barbara sa iWant movie na Abandoned, at mapapanood din sa katatapos lang i-shoot na pelikulang Babae at Baril.

Nauna nang itinampok si Barbara sa mga pelikulang Kung Paano Siya Nawala (2018), In The Dark (2017), at The Girlfriend Experience (2015).

Mananatiling bukas ang PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) sakaling may gustong idagdag o linawin si Barbara sa artikulong ito.

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Indie film actress Barbara Ruaro shares on Instagram a series of photos about the alleged physical abuse that she suffered recently, "done by someone I loved and cared for deeply."
PHOTO/S: @bieruaro on Instagram
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