"The only person who benefts from my shame and my silence is him. That ends today."
Matapang na isiniwalat ni Bianca Valerio ang aniya'y sekswal na pang-aabusong naranasan niya sa kamay ng executive ng isang sikat na social media app.
Si Bianca, 28, ay kilalang host sa lifestyle, entertainment, at corporate events.
Hindi man pinangalanan, inilarawan niya ang "sexual predator" na may "criminal record" mula noong 2014.
Tinawag din niya itong "Mr. PR man" na "cuddly teddy bear" ang dating.
Hindi raw akalain ni Bianca na ang pagtanggap niya ng trabaho bilang host ng isang private party ay mauuwi sa kasuklam-suklam na krimeng ginawa sa kanya.
"Last June 23, 2021, I WAS SEXUALLY ASSAULTED by a male individual," lahad ni Bianca sa video ina pinost niya sa Instagram, Miyerkules ng gabi, March 30, 2022.
"He was one of the guests at an intimate private party I was hired to host for.
"I had never seen, met, or heard of this man before that evening. He told me he was working for a very popular mobile app.
"Since I didn’t have the app, he taught me how to use it and even gifted me with wallet credits this mobile app is known for.
"He was this cuddly teddy bear who was truly the Mr PR he is known to be.
"I was only made aware, after he sexually assaulted me, that first, he was never actually invited to the party I hosted."
"PLEASE STOP. PLEASE DON'T DO THIS."
Hindi napigilang maluha ni Bianca nang alalahin kung paano siya minanipula umano ng hindi pinangalanang "sexual predator."
Sinubukan pa raw siya nitong alukin ng ilegal na droga habang nasa party, at marespeto raw niya itong tinanggihan.
Tukoy ni Bianca sa nang-abuso umano sa kanya: "To you, I'm talking to you, and you know who you are. Despite what you did to me, I have no regrets. Honestly, I really don't.
"I have survived many bullies like you all throughout my life. And in hindsight, knowing now what I know about you, I am probably one of the few who is actually genuinely kind to you.
"Because I never asked you for anything that night. I never asked you to buy me a drink. I never asked you for wallet credits. I never asked you for a ride home.
"I never asked you for narcotics, even if you and I know all throughout that evening as you offered and you pushed, what did I say? 'Oh, no, you go ahead. Thank you so much. No, no, no. No.'
"No means no. No doesn't mean, 'Please convince me.' No," diin ni Bianca.
Pero inabuso pa rin siya umano ng lalaki sa kabila ng paulit-ulit niyang pagmamakaawa rito.
"And I guess, just because I was kind to you, you probably thought that it was okay to take advantage of me, to manipulate me, to isolate me, to physically hurt me, and to sexually assault me.
"Even if I keep begging and begging you, 'Why are you doing this? Please, don't do this. Please stop. Please don't do this.'"
DEEPLY TRAUMATIZED BY WHAT HAPPENED
Sa puntong ito, naluha si Bianca sa tindi ng sakit na dinulot sa kanya ng sekswal na pang-aabuso umano ng nakilalang executive ng isang social media app.
"You know, even if you say it was just one night. For sure, even if you had just sexually assaulted me that one night...
"As any, as many victims of sexual and any form of trauma knows, the effects of PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder], the damage that it does to our physical, mental, and psychological health goes way beyond the moment it happened."
Nakakakilabot mang isipin ay napag-alaman daw ni Bianca na marami pang ibang biktima ng sekswal na pang-aabuso ang lalaking iyon.
"I was just another Wednesday night.
"And for the record, hindi ako nagmamalinis.
"I can hear all of you saying right now, 'Bianca, why did you even put yourself in this situation? It's like you put yourself there. So why should I feel sorry for you?'"
Nahihikbing pag-amin ni Bianca, siya man ay paulit-ulit na sinisi ang sarili.
"I know. I know. I know why...
"Trust me, I have blamed, tortured, and physically harmed myself nearly every single day ever since that night. So I know.
"So, I'm using this opportunity to apologize to every single person that I've disappointed through this incident.
"If there's one person that is utterly disappointed in myself, it's me.
"But I do not take responsibility for what he did. I do not take responsibility for the crime he chose to commit."
HOW "MR. PR MAN" GETS AWAY WITH HIS ALLEGED CRIMES
Hindi rin daw lubos maisip ni Bianca kung bakit wala man lamang nagbabala sa kanyang may hindi magandang reputasyon ang executive na iyon ng social media app.
"I wish I never took that job. I wish I never met those people at the party.
"Can you imagine? Not a single one of them warned me what they already knew about him. That's why they didn't want him there."
Lumabas na isa raw siyang "outsider that was left to fend for my life."
Dugtong ni Bianca, "Now I understand why many of his alleged victims have never spoken up.
"They have to live with the shame of being judged. Judged by society. Judged by you.
"The vicious victim blaming that happens is why we keep silent. It's like going through an additional trauma for something that was never our fault.
"This is most likely why he has gotten away with it for so many years."
Pero siyam na buwan makalipas ang insidente, ayaw na raw ni Bianca magpanggap na parang walang nangyari.
Bukod sa pagnanais na makamit ang hustisya, nais daw ni Bianca na magsilbing inspirasyon sa ibang kababaihan na huwag matakot mahusgahan sa isang bagay na hindi nila kasalanan.
"The moment you find yourselves in a vulnerable position, the crime committed against you will never be justified ever.
"And no matter what, this does not give anyone, or people like him, the right to commit violence against you.
"Remember, a crime is a crime," diin ni Bianca.
FINDING STRENGTH THROUGH HER BROKENnESS
Sa kabila ng masakit na karanasan niya, pinanghawakan ni Bianca ang pananalig sa Diyos at paniniwalang wala siyang dapat ikahiya.
Na hindi niya hahayaang mawalan siya ng pagmamahal sa sarili nang dahil sa kalupitang ginawa umano sa kanya.
"In this moment, as I speak up, I release the shame, the anger, the pain that I've been carrying far too long.
"I honor myself by speaking against violence. I honor my family by doing what is right.
"I honor my God by faithfully carrying this cross.
"I honor women by warning you about him and people like him so that you can protect not just yourselves.
"Because I hope that you can find it in your heart to protect other women, other people...
"I honor these women by reporting this crime to the police and have sought legal action."
Dugtong ni Bianca, "For the first time in my life, I finally know what it means when they say that 'I am enough.'
"I have never been proud in my entire life, simply by speaking up, with God as my strength, I have already won my inner battle.
"This is me claiming my power back."