Long-distance relationships (LDR) can be intimidating, to say the least. While it takes a high level of mental fortitude to sustain one, work can make it all the more challenging for some couples.
During the press conference of Silka on September 29, 2022, Sue was asked about how she juggles her time between self-care, her busy work schedule, and LDR with boyfriend Victorias City Mayor Javi Benitez.
STRIKING THE RIGHT BALANCE
Sue convinced, "Naku, alam niyo po kailangan lang nating makuha yung tamang balance. Tsaka, of course, manage also your priorities, di ba?
"Ang hirap kaya maging tao sa totoong buhay lang, andami mong mine-maintain — yung balat mo, yung internal organs mo, yung dugo mo, lahat, yung friendships mo, yung mental health mo, yung diet mo, yung pamilya mo.
"Andami-dami nating kailangan i-maintain so you have to just find the perfect balance para sa lahat ng tao sa paligid mo.
"So, siyempre right now, ang priority ko po is working and I'm so happy that I'm so busy."
She added, "I consider everything a blessing. The people around me and yung love life po na sinasabi niyo have done nothing but support me in everything that I do.
"Si Javi is very proud of me, talagang when he takes me around. You can really see it and feel it na talagang happy siya pag kasama niya ako at nadadala niya ako dun sa mga constituents niya.
"Tamang balanse lang po ang kailangan."
ADJUSTMENT AND ASSESSMENT
The 26-year-old actress revealed that she has been mentally preparing for the LDR setup even before beau Javi Benitez was elected as mayor of Victorias City, Negros Occidental.
"Busy rin naman si Javi which is a good thing. Well, just recently, tuwing puwede kami magkita, magkikita kami. So, siguro yun na yung naging understanding namin.
"Medyo matagal na rin kaming nag-e-LDR kasi nga he had to be based na there in Negros because of the politics, di ba, he ran for mayor.
"So ako, tanggap ko na yun at mi-nindset ko na yung sarili ko at prinaktis ko na yun siyempre."
Sue also mentioned the importance of adjusting to their current setup, and understanding that there will be moments of unavailability due to the nature of Mayor Javi's job.
"Hindi naman tayo puwedeng hindi mag-a-adjust sa mga nagbabagong panahon. Kailangan marunong tayo mag-adapt," she said.
"Hindi madali, ang hirap, ha, na hindi accessible yung mahal mo sa buhay, na hindi mo alam kung kailan mo siya puwede tawagan, makausap, dahil siyempre busy yung tao.
"Isang buong city yung pinoproblema niya, sisingit ka pa di ba ng kung anong problema mo?
"So, may mga ganung balanse na kailangan mong i-figure out kung 'Kukulitin ko pa ba siya dito?'
"So, may mga ganun siyempre. Pero yun nga, at the end of the day, it’s how both of you find ways to communicate with each other that’s going to keep the love and the relationship alive.
"I think, yun lang, the most basic foundation for a long-distance relationship is really the communication."
KEEPING CERTAIN THINGS PRIVATE
When asked how she feels about not being able to post photos of the two of them often, Sue answered, "Siguro okay lang. Hindi kasi rin kami masyado nagpo-post palagi.
"Alam naman ng mga tao na mag-boyfriend kami at masaya kami. Parang, it’s also nice na not everybody is involved with the relationship that you have.
"Kasi, parang when you involve other people so much, andami mong naririnig, andaming magsasabi, nawawala yung train of thought mo.
"Nawawala yung balanse mo na dapat kayong dalawa lang magkausap, andami-dami pa tuloy iba.
"So, parang mas maganda talaga na just to keep it private."