Even at the age of 50+, Vilma Santos-Recto still yearning to have
a baby girl. Even with her schedule full as an actress-public servant, the Star
for All Seasons is still open to the possibility of .
In the August 15 episode of Vilma: A
Woman for All Seasons on ABS-CBN, Vilma said that she wanted a daughter who
would look like her. "If you'll ask me, sana mas marami pa. Prepared naman
ako. Kung tatanungin ako sana magkaroon ako ng isang baby girl. Sana naman yung
kamukha ko na. Yung dalawa kong anak, e, mga mini me ng tatay nila," she
It will be recalled that Maria Rosa Vilma Tuazon Santos has two children
already: Luis Philip borne from a previous marriage to Eduardo Manzano. Now an
actor-TV host in his own right, Vilma often refers to her son "Lucky"
because his arrival in her life gave more success to her movie career.
Several years afterwards, her marriage with Edu ended with divorce. In 1992, she
got married to Ralph Recto and they were blessed with a son, Ryan Christian.
VILMA THE MOTHER. The woman who
started as a child actress at the age of 9 said that she showers her children
with nothing but love and care. She sees to it that she attends to her family's
needs, despite her busy schedule as an actress and a political figure.
"I see to it na pag uwi ko nadadatnan ko yung anak ko nagaaral gumagawa ng
assignment... Pagdating ni Ralph, asawa ko naman. Tatanungin ko kung kumain na
sya," she said.
Her youngest Ryan Christian describes how Vilma is like in their home. "When
I come home from school, she hugs me. She says how are you, how's your day...
She's like my best friend. I get to tell her secrets, things about school, about
Luis adds, "She's very, very cool. And definitely a very loving mother sa
pagiging makulit at malambing n'ya."
Of course a family is not just built on hugs and kisses. Vilma said that if the
situation calls for, she's sometimes forced to discipline her sons in her own
"Ako gusto kong manatili yung disiplina nila. Pag hindi ko nakitang
nakorek nya, alam nyang galit pa rin ako... One time I got mad at lucky.
Binawalan ko s'ya gumamit ng cellphone," Vilma recalled.
Luky pointed out, "Hindi naman mainitin yung ulo nya. Gusto nya lang
nakakatulong ng tama." Ryan observed, "She doesn't scream naman. She just
makes her voice loud. In the movies, it's very different."
Vilma also admits to being thrifty. She reasons that it's just right to manage
your finances: making sure that the last penny spent is spent well.
"Kung ito ang budget natin for a month, sa lahat ng maintainance, we'll
stick to this. Minsan sabon. Bibili ka ng cleanser. Pag hindi mo pinaghihirapan
ang pera, wala
kang pakialam. Sandali lang, kalahati ubos na. Hindi dapat ganun.
"I always tell them that once na binigyan kita ng pambili, binigyan kita
1000 tapos may sukli ng 200. Yung sukli, tapos yung resibo, ibigay mo sa ‘kin.
Pero pag ako naman, may raket, lahat yan may share. binibigay ko lang yung tama
kong pamamalakad, hindi naman kuripot.
HER HUSBAND, the BUNSO. Among her
sons, her favorite is Ralph. Well, that is according to her husband.
"Parang nanay ko rin s'ya. Ang biro nga n'ya tatlo anak nya, si Lucky si
Ryan at ako. At bilang bunso ako yung paborito," said the former senator
and NEDA director general.
The couple have been married for 17 years now. Ralph said that despite her
wife's shortcomings as a house keeper, Vilma remains to be the only woman he
can imagine himself with. "Matagal mag ayaos mataga magbihis. Isa lang ang
alam lutuin noon," he revealed.
He added: "I cannot imagine myself with any other wife. I thinks she's a
partner in life. Maalaga siya, both as a wife and as a mother."
Like any other couple, the two sometimes get into an arguments. According to
Vilma, the most common reason for their disagreement is their son Ryan. She
said that the have their own way of raising their son, and this sometimes results
Vilma described Ralph's way of raising Ryan: "Feeling nya buddy buddy si
Ryan. Gusto nya lahat ng sport ipaaral: may taekwondo dyan, may golf d'yan.
Lahat na ata judo, swimming...
"Sometimes pag galing sa sakit, sasabihin ko wag mo munang pag swimming. Kasi
nagaantibiotics pa yan hay naku, makita mo sila lumalangoy pareho sa swimming
pool. E, di magagalit ang nanay!"
As for Ralph, he pointed out: "Me and Ryan would go to the gym, play
badminton, play golf. Run around go biking. Pag nagaaway kami parang pelikula
rin yan. Parang si Vilma at si Christopher De Leon nakita mo sa sine.
Madali naman palamigin ang ulo nyan. Lalambingin mo rin. Take care of her
needs. Magsisipsip ka rin kasama mga bata."
As a couple, Vilma said that she and Ralph stood by each other at all times.
Both are currently involved in politics.
"Siguro ako lang yung laging nasa likod ng asawa ko. Kapag maron siyang
mahahabang mga speaches, yayayain nya ko ng 'dear, would you listen sa speach
ko kung tama and paano ko ba 'to dedeliver.' Eh yung speech nya, siguro mg 20
pages. So ako si missis galing trabaho, uuwi ako doon, O sige, sige,
listen," Vilma shared.
"I respect him kasi alam nya ang kanyang responsibilidad bilang asawa. Ako
kahit I'm earning my own money, meron pa rin akong allowance bilang pagbubuhay
nya sa akin at sa kanyang anak," she added.
Ralph is grateful to have Vilma as his partner in life. "She's been very helpful.
I think I've been helpful to her as well. Marami rin akong natutunan sa kanya.
Palagay ko marami rin syang natutunan sa akin."
Their interdependence allows the couple to share all the emotional aspects of
their career: including successes and failures.
LOWEST POINT IN THEIR LIFE. When
Ralph lost the in the 2007 Senatorial elections, this was their family's lowest
point. "Isa yun sa pinaka-low momment ng buhay ko. Especially I won a
governor," she recalled.
"Plus the fact na alam ko ang intention nya. Yung intention nya na its not
even for one two three persons--it's for the country. Yet, it's an unpopular
issue na itinapon sa kanya, na nakaapekto sa kanya that's why he did not
win," she explained.
Vilma said that Ralph helped her throughout her campaign for the position of
Batangas governor. She said that her husband insisted on taking care of her,
instead of focusing on his own campaign.
"Instead of campaigning for himself, he was with me in Batangas so that
he'd take care of me. Mas magiistay sya dun kasi ayaw nya kong madisgrasya. Kasi
hindi biro yung paglaban ko. Kaya lalong mas masakit sa akin. Pag uwi nya,
nandito kaming mag ina. Sinabi lang namin sa kanyang 'that's life'. Yun lang
sinabi namin. But deep in me: and sakit...sobra."
Over time, the wounds healed. Vilma said that she and her family were able to get
over the loss.
Vilma declared, "We overcame it. We're fine now. He's the secretary now of
Overall, Vilma said that she is thankful for having the family that she has now-and
given their glowing words for her, they are lucky to have her as well.
"I'm blessed and I can consider myself genuinely successful," Vilma concludes.