"In a relationship, you're a team, you're supposed to communicate, you're supposed to work things out together," said Rafael Rosell about the things he learned from his recent breakup with long-time girlfriend Malaya Lewandowski.

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He continued, "I mean, she looked like an angel, she acted like an angel, then she dropped me like a devil. 'I don't even know who the guy is,' because I used to see him everyday sa gym and he looks innocent. Pero using the word of God for wrong intentions, I think that's wrong."

GETTING BACK ON HIS FEET. Rafael admitted that this breakup made him depressed and it took him a while before he started to move on.

"I didn't know what to do," he said. "It was fine the night before. Everything was fine, then, all of a sudden she comes out with all these things that she wanted to talk with me about that she didn't talk to me about. I mean, in a relationship, you're a team, you're supposed to communicate, you're supposed to work things out together. But she outsourced and started talking to this other guy, so para sa akin, it's not fair play."

So, what was the first thing he did to move forward?

Before writing down his thoughts on Facebook, Rafael turned to his mother. He related, "First thing I do, I talked to my mom. That's the first time I actually talked to her. It was the longest time, actually, na parang I was down."

He also added that his mother gave him the best advice he could get during the lowest point of his life.

"I talked to my mom about it and she gave me the best solution talaga. Sabi ko sa kanya, 'Mom, sobrang depressed ako.' Then, sabi niya, 'Ganyan naman talaga ang buhay, e, it's not fair. But in the end, ano ba talaga ang magagawa ng pagmumukmok mo diyan sa bahay?' That's when I realized, 'Oo nga, ano?'"

With this realization, Rafael started to go on with his life.

"I decided to just stand up, get back on my feet, and not be bothered too much about it. In the end, I can honestly say that I stepped out of this relationship and moved forward and say that I did everything that I was supposed to do, even more."