“Motherhood changes everything.”
Audrey Tan-Zubiri first experienced what it was like to be a mom at the age of 25.
Being an only child, she had her fears then.
“I don’t have siblings so parang I wasn’t like my friends na parang ate talaga, that you can tell, ‘Yan pag naging mommy, [okay]…’
“Ako, wala, only child, e, so there was never anyone to take care of and to practice on,” she told PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) during the launch of Johnson’s Baby New Gen Care for the New Gen Mom last March 26.
She was not in the least motherly.
Smiling, she related, “I didn’t even know how to carry a baby. My god, I remember buntis na ako, I went to a baptism, ‘tapos nung kinarga ko yung baby, hindi ko pa alam i-carry yung head. Omigod, talagang, buntis na ‘ko nun ah.
“Or like, yung mga I don’t like to wake up in the middle of the night, para akong mantika matulog.”
But things took a 180-degree turn “the minute I had my baby.”
Her eyes lit up as she talked about the joys of being a mom.
Audrey continued, “It made my life a lot richer, more exciting, and it brought out a lot of…Me, actually, like I was scared before na parang naku baka when I become a mom parang na-stuck na ako…
“I was so happy and pleasantly surprised.
“Motherhood actually opens up so many more new opportunities because it brings out these facets in you, like, I never thought I’d go into writing…Or like, yung mga parenting seminars.
“And, of course, it also made me more passionate about a lot of causes—children’s causes—that’s why now I’m with Bantay Bata.
“So it really opened up a whole new side of me and a whole new world to me, there.”
RAISING HER KIDS. If there’s one lesson she wants to impart to her kids—Maria Adriana and Juan Miguel Jr.—what will it be?
A pause, before replying, “Siguro, more than anything, it’s really kindness.
“Kasi, I mean, you know, I would love to see them all succeed in life, of course, it’s the parents’ dream ‘no, for every child, and I’d love for them to always be talagang at the top of their game.
“But you know, what’s all that if they’re hated by everyone? If they don’t have a family to love them?”
Audrey's “I did a good job as a mom” indicator is when people say something good about her kids.
She expounded, “Kung masamang ugali nila, siyempre parang at the end of the day, what matters most is I know I raised God-fearing, responsible, decent people who really make us proud of them not because of their achievements, but because of the goodness of their heart, their kindness to others, and their positive changes—the positive thing that they do for this world.”
Is she going to allow Adriana and Juanmi (the nicknames of her daughter and son, respectively) to enter showbiz?
Shaking her head, she answered, “None of us is in showbiz naman.”
How about politics?
“If in the future, you know, if they feel that they have something to contribute…
“For me, I’d like them to enter only if they have something that they can contribute talaga.
“I don’t want them to enter simply because, ‘O, mga anak ni Migz,’ yung ganun.
“I don’t like that kind of thing na para bang minana na lang yung puwesto…I don’t like that.”
She wants them to prove their worth before becoming public servants.
Sharing some words of wisdom far beyond her years, the former VJ remarked, “It has to be that they really, truly have something to offer and they deserve to be in politics.
“They’ll work hard. They’ll work to earn a position.”