Dimples Romana was 19 when she married Boyet Ahmee.
Her reason: "I was looking for [a] complete family."
In an intimate interview during the launch of her endorsement Diana Stalder, she recounted: “I was 12 when my sister died of leukemia. Three years later, my lola died… who lived with us. Four years later, my dad died.
“So, you can imagine na I felt, ‘Wait a minute, I want something to hold onto.
“And also, my sanity somehow, medyo maapektuhan dahil feeling mo... akalain mo namang these are all immediate family so parang feeling ko, I need to have a solid family that I can really hold onto.
“Not that I didn’t feel complete with my mom or my brother or my sister. But I needed somebody who can help me get through it.”
Her husband Boyet was not just her boyfriend then. “He was my best friend. Kapitbahay ko ‘yan, e…” she added.
And one day, she just blurted out, “I think I wanna get married…”
But there were some hurdles.
Smiling, she related Boyet’s hesitation, “[Sabi ng asawa ko], ‘No, I’m not doing it. I love you and your family, dadadadadada...’ Talagang inaayawan ako.”
Some people were also telling her husband even if in jest, “Mag-ingat ka kasi artista siya. Baka she might change her mind, ganito-ganyan.”
At that time, she was also doing Kay Tagal Kitang Hinintay (July 2002-November 2003), which starred Lorna Tolentino.
“Ikakasal kami, e, may soap ako nun…Sabi ko kay direk, ‘I’m pregnant…I’m getting married so do not…Kasi, di ba, nagbi-brainstorm sila, alam mo kung pinapalaki yung role, e.
“Sabi ko, ‘Direk, don’t do it na.’ Baka mamaya, ma-abrupt. Sabi niya, ‘O bakit?’ Sabi ko, ‘I’m getting married na.’”
But Dimples was so bent on starting her own family, and excited about her pregnancy.
“I was really, really very happy. For some really weird reason, I thought it was a blessing,” she recounted.
Ten years since she and Boyet became a couple, and eight years after their wedding, “Wala akong regrets at all.”
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She said it‘s a work in progress, so the longer a couple stay together, the more they learn from each other.
“That’s why, importante na magkaibigan kayo,” the Kapamilya actress underscored.
Aside from friendship, Dimples wanted to share some more insights about her journey as a wife and a mom to Cali.
1. “I don’t endorse early pregnancies…But I think the dynamics of a young family is pretty cool.”
In her case, Boyet is nine years her senior.
“He didn’t look it kasi, I think we act just the same. Parang nagkakakuhaan ng traits?
Nakukuha ko yung goodness ng maturity niya. Nakukuha niya yung dynamic ng pagiging younger ko. Nababalanse.”
2. Selosa? “Every woman should go through it.”
She admitted to checking the phone of her husband before, and “I’m not ashamed of it,” Dimples remarked.
“I’m sure merong mga blessed na hindi talaga ganun as a person. Pero, ako kasi, meron akong nosy ano, e, nosy factor…Oo, talagang titignan ko.
“Tumatawag pa nga ako, e. ‘Don’t ever talk to my husband.’
“Bakit ako lang ba gumawa niyan? I’m sure lahat naman ng mga wives kelangan nila ng courage to do it.
“May karapatan kaming gumawa nun. Basta huwag ka lang makakabastos ng anybody or something…”
Add the fact that she was young and…a “Scorpio!”
According to astrology.com, “those who are born under this sign are dead serious in their mission to learn about others.”
The 28-year-old celebrity said, “Hindi ko alam kung naniniwala kayo sa ganun pero I’m super intense.
“So, hindi ako puwedeng gray area—either I’m super, super jealous o wala lang. Ayoko naman ng wala lang.”
What’s the reaction of Boyet?
“Actually tinatawanan lang niya ‘ko. Hindi naman…we don’t really take each other seriously.”
She called that a “phase,” and over time, “nawala na rin.”
3. Infidelity is non-negotiable.
Just like most women, “meron akong fear na baka ipagpalit ako ng asawa ko,” she confessed.
She related, “Sinubukan ko na iyan, e. Lagi ko ngang tinatakot, e, ‘Huwag kang magkakamali. Pag nagkamali ka, bye…’
“Hindi kasi ako masyadong forgiving sa ganyang note.”
Dimples is a believer of the golden rule.
“Kasi if I am giving you my loyalty, then I’m expecting the same way.
“So kung ako, medyo kiring-kiri ako sa taping, di, tsika lang po, palampasin ko na yung sa kanya.
“E, kaya lang, hindi ako ganun talaga…cool lang ako talaga. Pag nakikita ko nga yung mga may abs, iniisip ko, face ni Boyet yun.”
Aside from happiness, her husband has been giving her this sense of security. She described the dad of her unica hija as “really very loyal.”
4. Dating should not stop after exchanging I Do's.
The host-actress makes it a point, that every week, “May date kami ni Boyet, dalawa. Date sila ni Cali, silang dalawa lang. Date kami ni Cali, kaming dalawa. May date kaming tatlo.”
Despite her showbiz commitments, it's a must that she gets to spend quality time with the two most important people in her life.
“Kasi kelangan praktisin, e. Pag hindi mo in-effort, anong mangyayari? Hintayin mo lang magkayayaan kayo?
“Dapat ang pamilya, winu-work out, e.”
5. “Mawa-what if ako kung di ako happy.”
Though she married at a young age, she never entertained the idea of missing out on anything.
“Hindi ko na-miss yung single na kelangan kong lumabas. Boyet lets me now. Hindi niya ako pinipigilan kaya hindi ko hinanap.”
And she was able to go back to showbiz.
“I’m a better wife and mother when I’m working,” Dimples said.
When she’s at home, she’s very meticulous.
Laughing, the young mom related, “Ang dami kong pinapansin. [Sabi nga ng asawa ko], ‘Magtrabaho ka na, puwede ka nang bumalik sa pagti-taping.”
At 28, Dimples feels complete.
Her constant prayer: “Hindi kami mag-away ni Boyet. Okay si Cali sa school. Healthy kami…”
Is there anything else she wants?
Showing her dimples, the lovely mom said, “Sinasabi ko kay Boyet, ‘Pagka gagawa ka ng kasalanan, magsasabi ka na sa ‘kin, ha, para prepared ako.
“Actually, ipinagdadasal naman siguro, kahit ano’ng sabi na hindi mo ifo-forgive, pagdating sa pagkakataon na yun, pag pamilya mo na ‘yan, di ba, kaya mo na ipalagpas ‘yan.”
On second thought, “Huwag niyong isusulat ‘yan, ha. Baka mabasa ni Boyet, um-okey nang um-okey. Puwede naman pala, forgiving ka naman pala,” she retracted with a burst of laughter.