#RelationshipGoals2016: 12 lessons we learn from stars on how to keep the love alive

What's the secret to a happy marriage? Just by looking at the Instagram posts of Doug Kramer and Cheska Garcia and Ryan Agoncillo and Judy Ann Santos, it's spending quality time with each other.


Single? Looking for love?

But before you launch your search for the one or enter any relationship, you gotta set or reset your standards.

As you age, some of your rules have to be bent for love. You make the necessary adjustments.

But your staunch beliefs and family values? They have to be non-negotiable. Do not settle for anything less.

Take it from these stars—who, despite the trappings of the limelight and their busy schedules—have rock-solid relationships.

#RelationshipGoal1. Find a person you can talk to even when you’re arguing.

Jolina Magdangal said, “Kasi ang pinakamahirap para sa isang relationship pag yung mayroon kang hindi nasabi ‘tapos naipon na, e.

“Doon nag-i-start yung ano e kasi feeling ko, hindi porke’t kinasal kayo, kilala niyo na ang isa’t isa.

“Yung talagang araw-araw, dun nag-i-start yung kinikilala niyo pa rin ang sarili niyo, e.

“So communication talaga yung dapat, noong mag-jowa pa lang, boyfriend-girlfriend pa lang kayo, mayroon na. Kasi do’n iikot talaga.

“Di ba sabi nga ng matatanda, sorry for the ano pero hindi mo na maiisip ang sex.

“Nando’n na kayo sa companionship, e. So kung hindi kayo nag-uusap, para saan pa na mayroon kang partner?”

#RelationshipGoal2. Find a person who will “kill you with kindness.”

After seven years of being married and having three kids, Cheska Garcia still raves about her husband, Doug Kramer.

#RelationshipGoal3. Laugh trip. Appreciation galore!

Jericho Rosales said marriage is never a trial and error, but a “lifetime of learning…and understanding.”

When you discover something, try to see the good in it.

The Kapamilya actor elaborated, “We always have moments that we realize what we need to do. We have pastors helping us.

“It always ends up with appreciation of each other.

“Kunwari you’re my wife, and I found out something, and I understand you more.

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“After understanding, it’s appreciation. So that’s what happens.

“Our relationship is growing, and we become happier and happier."

What happens when the going gets tough?

Echo (his nickname) ranswered, “Of course there are moments like, ‘Okay so this is the married life,’ parang ganun. Pero mas maraming, ‘Whoa, married life!’

“We’re happy.

“Do we fight? Parang hindi, ano. Parang okay lang kami. But we do.”

Smiling, the Walang Forever star enumerated some causes of their fights.

“Of course there are cultural differences.

“Most of the time I’m the annoying one, which is true.

“Because namana ko sa pagiging Pilipino ko yung stubborn and medyo may konting ano laidback.

“She’s an Australian so she’s always on time, very organized, very ladylike. She’s a woman.”

The pretty things?

“Mahilig kasi ako gumawa ng mga noise, mga irritating noise.

“So meron, from takip ng toothpaste.

“I like to sing, when she starts to sing, I will sing also. [She will say,] ‘Why do you have to sing?’

“Eating loud.

“She’s very progressive. She’s always on her laptop, wakes up at 5:30 a.m, sleeps at 10:00 p.m.

“She’s driven.

“Ako, I wait for the scripts.”

One thing they learned after more than one year of being married, “…When we fight, it’s not the end of the world.

“For us, there’s a meeting of the minds that’s happening.

“Whenever we fight, we fix it right away. We don’t sleep na magkaaway kami.”

Most of all, “We have the ability to laugh at our issues.

“For example at the height of our argument biglang, hahahaha. And then when we laugh about it, it’s done.”

#RelationshipGoal4. Believe in this: Sweet guys (and girls) really exist.

In one of Neri Naig’s posts on Instagram, she related that her husband gives her a foot rub.

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“Ang sweet ng asawa ko. Sabi niya, lalagyan niya daw ng lotion yung legs at paa ko para makatulog ako agad kase maaga pa raw work ko tomorrow. Nakakatuwa. Ang sweet lang.

“Pero habang naglalagay siya ng lotion, kumakanta siya ng, ‘Lagi mong tatandaan na pag umibig ang babae ay hindi ito papayag magpa-lotion sa paa..??’

“Tawa nang tawa habang naglo-lotion.

“Sira-ulo talaga asawa ko. Pero tawang-tawa talaga ako sa kanya. Lahat ng punchlines niya, benta talaga sa akin. You are so funny, baby ko.

“And super sweet. Haaay.?”

#RelationshipGoal5. Stress-free!

Benjamin Alves said, “Life is already so serious and sometimes a relationship is really serious.

“Kailangan talaga may break, sense of humor.

“And my sense of humor goes from green to really stupid.

“Mabigat kasi dalhin kung pero serious. Nakaka-stress.”

#RelationshipGoal6. A love that knows your language of love.

Iya Villania-Arellano didn’t mind unpacking for her husband even if it was obvious to her that he “escaped” the task after filling her “love tank.”

#RelationshipGoal7. Christ-centered

Karylle said, “Because no matter what happens, you will hold on to each other.

“That’s forever.

“Sabi nila walang forever.

"Pero there is if the relationship is Christ-centered.”

#RelationshipGoal8. Labor of love

Mariel, as a wife, is super karir.

Her husband Robin Padilla once related that even if they have maids, Mariel is the one who cooks for him.

#RelationshipGoal9. Wife first or Family comes first.

On Maricar Reyes, Richard Poon said, “I want to prioritize her among the people. After God, siya na, e.

“…we’ve seen in our own families din na, let’s say Chinese whatever, inuuna yung negosyo before the wife or negosyo before the family.

“Negosyo before the graduation mga gano’n.”

For Maricar’s part, she had turned down three major teleseryes offering her regular roles.

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Richard related, “Ngayon tinanggap naming yung Ang Probinsyano because they only asked for seven days, seven to nine days lang. Which is for me, manageable.”

Aside from their careers, they have a business plus they’ve been wanting to have a baby.

He added, “I think if we’ll do [a lot of projects], mawawala yung time for each other.

“I think that’s the key, time, prioritizing her, and giving her time.

“Kasi pag wala kayong time mag-usap, nasisira siya e yung relationship, nawawala yung intimacy, nawawala yung connection, nawawala talaga e in the name of money.”

#RelationshipGoal10. Love letters will always be uso!

Bianca gushed at husband JC Intal’s surprise!

#RelationshipGoal11.  Be choosy. Pray you’ll end up not with the man or woman you just like, but the person who has all the qualities you’re looking for in a partner.

Harlene Bautista has been married to Romnick Sarmenta for 16 years.

But it’s not the fact that they both chose to stay away from the limelight that has kept their family together.

The key, according to Harlene, is not just finding the one but the right one.

“Sa tingin ko, blessed lang ako na hindi stressful yung marriage because I have a very supportive, understanding, faithful, loving, and God-fearing husband.

“We’re very happy, and we’re happily taking care of our children, growing children.”

#RelationshipGoal12. Do things together. Have a lot of adventures together.

That’s the essence of being in a relationship or marriage.

Otherwise, things will easily fall apart.

Cheers!!! #saltysouryogurt

A photo posted by Judy Ann Santos-Agoncillo (@officialjuday) on


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