Over and over again, we have been told that "beauty is only skin deep," which means, what's inside is more important than what's outside.
But still, women spend so much money on fashion and makeup.
While they help enhance and emphasize beauty, the ageless kind of beautiful begins with taking care of your inner self.
Charo Santos-Concio firmly believes in this truth.
In an exclusive interview with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) at the Olay 10 Years of #BestBeautiful Transformations celebration in Shangri-La at The Fort, Bonifacio Global City, on October 6, she talks about the importance of self-esteem.
Defined as "confidence in one's own worth or abilities," it encompasses not just the way we actually look, but also how we take care of ourselves, and how we feel about how we look.
According to the Ang Babaeng Humayo star, self appreciation plays crucial.
Charo recounts, "I guess when you’re young, you’re harder on yourself because parang, madami ka pang fears, e.
"You’re defining yourself on the basis of people’s expectations of you.
"But then, you realize, ‘Hey, I can’t live life being defined by the world.’
"I have to find that inner confidence within me and believe in myself and believe in my capabilities.
"I am not perfect, I have my weaknesses, I have my limitations, but I should appreciate my strengths and the things that I am good at."
She underlines that confidence shouldn’t come from the approval of others.
"Even if the world adores you, if you don’t believe in yourself and you don’t accept yourself, warts and all, if you love yourself unconditionally, you won’t have that sense of peace, ‘di ba?"
Next, she reiterates the value of embracing experiences.
Charo remarks, “You become wiser, hopefully, you become more mindful. You become more sensitive about other people. You show a lot more empathy, you’re not self-absorbed anymore.
“Kung dumating ka naman sa sisenta at self-absorbed ka pa, e, ewan ko na! I mean, ‘di ba?”
But the lessons come in life's different phases.
"You don’t naman expect a 16-year-old to be thinking this way and to be talking this way. But also, you hope naman when you meet a 60-year-old, may pinagkatandaan naman."
Third, she reminds how criticisms can help improve ourselves.
“If somebody gives you some piece of advice and you know that it would improve you and it’ll make you a better person, don’t naman show arrogance. Yung false pride, ‘Hmph, e, this is me, e.’
“O ‘di ba, madaming batang ganyan!
“Dapat discerning ka rin, have the humility to know. Know that this person cares enough to tell me my truth, no matter how hurting it may be.”
Lastly, Charo leaves this advice to the youth, "Listen.
"Listen to the good things that people tell you about you."
If there's one thing we should do, it's to "stop comparing" ourselves to others.
And if there's one thing we should be: “You have to be your authentic self, you have to be true to yourself.”