Yeng Constantino advises against "pagalit" approach when making a point with husband

Yeng Constantino on marriage: "Kailangan, strong kayo pareho. Kung yung isa mahina sa isang punto, magpakatibay ka kasi kailangan ka niya."
by FM Ganal
Jan 2, 2019
<p>Yeng Constantino says it's too much to ask men to be the knight in shining armor at all times. She reminds wives: "Hindi ikaw yung princess na sini-save lagi, kasi minsan, yung asawa mo, kailangan niya din ng someone na magsi-save sa kanya."</p>
PHOTO/S: @yeng on Instagram

Yeng Constantino and Yan Asuncion will be celebrating their fourth wedding anniversary this year.

They got married on February 14, 2015, in a private garden ceremony at Hacienda Isabella in Cavite.

Being married has made Yeng realize a few new things about herself and as a woman.

She said, "Hindi puwede tignan yung asawa mo as your knight in shining armor.

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"Dapat Xena ka. Gets mo ako? Dapat you're strong also."

Xena referred to the fictional titular character of the 1990s show, Xena: Warrior Princess.

Yeng shared her thoughts on marriage with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) in a one-on-one interview back in November at the media conference for the Divas concert with Boyz II Men.

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NOOD KA MUNA!

BE STRONG FOR BOTH OF YOU

The Pop Rock princess explained why it was important to be have a strong will in a marriage.

She told PEP.ph, "Hindi ikaw yung princess na sini-save lagi, kasi minsan, yung asawa mo, kailangan niya din ng someone na mag-si-save sa kanya…

"You have to be strong. Kapag nakita mo siya na weak, ikaw yung poste niya... abot mo yung kamay mo, ['tapos sabihin mo,] 'Love, kaya mo iyan, let's go.'

"Kailangan, strong kayo pareho. Kung yung isa mahina sa isang punto, magpakatibay ka kasi kailangan ka niya.

"Huwag mo siyang i-criticize for being weak at times, kasi malay mo, yun lang yung lesson na pagdadaanan niya.

"Pero kapag natutunan niya ang dapat matutunan, lalo mong mamahalin yun, 'Wow, ang galing ah, ang galing…'

"'Tapos lalo ka rin niyang mamahalin, sa totoo lang."

Yeng then related a funny anecdote to stress her point.

"Kuwento lang ako: Yung asawa ko, kailangan namin i-uwi yung aso namin sa tatay ko.

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"Kasi nga, naho-homesick, kasi aso ng tatay ko yung binigay sa amin.

"'Tapos yung time na yun, hindi namin alam kung bakit tahol nang tahol.

"'Anong nangyari dito? Love, hinto tayo kasi baka may gustong gawin ito.'

"Hininto namin. Wala namang gagawin. Nagkakakawag lang sa labas. Ano ba yun?

"Pasok na naman, drive na naman kami. Mamaya-maya, bumaho sa buong sasakyan.

"Pumu-poo siya [yung aso] sa loob ng car. Si Yan, talagang nahilo.

"Oh my god, parang, 'Love, I don't know what to do!' Sobra siyang natulala.

"Promise, ako nagpulot nung poo-poo ng dog.

"'Tapos after nun parang, 'Love, grabe ka, I never thought,' sabi niya, 'Wow.'

"Sa ganda ko raw na ito—wow, ang ganda ko daw—sobrang, parang...

"Never niya daw na-imagine na gagawin ko yun.

"Sabi ko, 'Ano bang gagawin ko, e, hindi mo kaya? E, di ako yung gagawa.'

"Ang weird lang, sabi niya... pero sobrang nakaka in-love. Sabi niya, 'Hindi ka maarte no?'

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"Kasi minsan, feeling niya ang arte ko. Parang, sa pagkain, ma-ano ako, e.

"'Hindi ganito yung timpla. Mas may masarap, mas masarap yung luto ng nanay ko.'

"Gumaganun ako. Mareklamo. Pero nakita niya parang... sobrang cowboy ng babaeng ito.

"Sobrang nahanga siya. Lalo na sa malalaking bagay. Kapag nakita niya, parang, ang strong mo.

"Nakaka in-love din sa kanila pala yun."

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MAKE IT SWEET

Yeng revealed the best way to remind your man about his shortcomings is to be gentle about it.

She explained, "May times talaga na mag-la-lay low yang mga yan, so huwag kang magtampo.

"I-communicate mo na lang sa kanya na parang, 'Love, hindi mo na ko dine-date.'

"Huwag galit, huwag pa-attack. Ang maganda, pa-amo, ganun."

She went on with an imagined exchange between husband and wife.

"'Love, tagal mo na kong hindi dine-date.'

"'Talaga ba? Kelan ba yung last date natin?'

"'Seven months ago.'

"'Ay talaga ba, gusto mo mag-date?' Ganun. 'Gusto ko mag-date.'

"Minsan magli-lead pa yan sa away. Huwag mo na gawing away.

"Huwag mo nang palakihin. Amuin mo na lang, palambing.

"Mas madaling natatanggap ng lalaki ang mga bagay-bagay kapag palambing yung atake...

"Kaysa yung parang pagalit, 'I don’t deserve that!' Mga ganun. Wala na yun.

"Napagod na ko. Ganun ako nung umpisa e. Hindi siya maganda..."

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Yeng also stressed, "Hindi perpekto ang lalaki. Sa umpisa, siyempre sinasabi nila, magaling manligaw.

"Kasi nga, liligawan ka nang husto. Siguro yun yung isa mong kailangan, dapat paghandaan ng babae."

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<p>Yeng Constantino says it's too much to ask men to be the knight in shining armor at all times. She reminds wives: "Hindi ikaw yung princess na sini-save lagi, kasi minsan, yung asawa mo, kailangan niya din ng someone na magsi-save sa kanya."</p>
PHOTO/S: @yeng on Instagram
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