Vanna Garcia hopes her three sons grow up to be good men.
The former actress is now a full-time mom to Ethan, 13; Lucas, 9; Tyler, 5.
In an e-mail interview with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal), the 33-year-old former Kapuso actress reveals what it is like to be the only lady in their family of five.
"Being a mother to my three boys, it’s a very rough and rowdy household, but it feels great also to be the only queen in the house."
Vanna admits that in the past, she also wished for a baby girl. But she feels equally blessed to have given birth to three amazing boys.
She says, "I actually wanted my third one to be a girl. Though, I am alright to be blessed with my boys still."
Vanna feels like her children are growing up a little too fast so she treasures every moment she has with them while they're young.
Have they expressed interest in following her footsteps and having a career in showbiz?
Vanna replies, "I really can’t say I am seeing them going through that path right now.
"Since they are very focused on school then sports on the side.
"Although if it does come to their liking or if they want to try it out then I am also alright with that."
When it comes to disciplining their children, Vanna says her husband Louie Kaw usually takes on the role of the "bad cop."
She reveals, "My husband is the disciplinarian and I am the more lenient one.
"Of course, with their dad, it is really tough love in terms of dealing with the kids.
"Also, he is mostly in charge of extracurricular activities, like basketball, and training is also tough for them."
But Vanna clarifies that she can also be a strict mom.
"In my case, I also have my tough days when I need to teach them lessons in life or in school. I also am in charge of their daily needs and routines of the children and tutoring when needed."
Vanna has taken the extra effort to teach her children the importance of respect and loyalty.
"I always teach them to value the people around them and to respect people and have loyalty.
"Each and every person is important no matter what job or position they are in. I always tell them there is always something to learn in everywhere and to be open to it."
Her two constant reminders: Respect women and wait for the right one.
She continues, "Another thing is because they are boys I want them to value women and wait for the right person to come in the future when they want to have a family.
"They don't have to rush. I want them to be sure and to be fully committed to whoever this is to come who is for them so that they will be happy and contented."
RAISING A TEENAGER
The former TGIS star also admits she was a lot more strict on her eldest son Ethan.
"I was more strict with my eldest than my two other boys since the first child is when you experiment on the proper way of disciplining them.
"At some point, though, you see their difference in personality that is why the way of addressing them and teaching them changes depending on how they react and deal."
But Vanna is glad to have established a good relationship with her sons, especially with Ethan.
"Teenage years are when you become really curious about things.
"That is why I want my relationship with my son to be very open and close.
"I just want to be able to give him sound advice on all the steps in his life that he is taking. His doubts and questions answered.
"Like I am his confidant."
Vanna notes that discipline is not the essence of parenting. It is equally important to have bonding sessions with their kids.
She says, "We have many trips out of town and abroad. If we stay here in Manila, we make sure to have dinners where we can talk and find out what is going on with everyone.
"Sundays are reserved for bonding with the children either by watching a movie or just playing and doing activities with them. Also, praying together at night."
During the Enhanced Community Quarantine (ECQ), Vanna says she had more heart-to-heart talks with her husband and their children.
"Since we have been home, we have bondings over workouts and swimming as well as they play a lot of basketball with their dad.
"We watch movies as well and play games together.
"This ECQ, our family gets to bond deeply and have more heart to heart talks with the boys."