One of the most indelicate questions to ask a couple is, "When are you going to have a baby?"
For one, the question puts long-time married couples on the spot.
And for newlyweds, it sounds like meddling even when it comes from well-meaning friends and family.
Coleen Garcia knows only too well how such an innocent remark can put unnecessary stress on couples, especially on those not in a hurry to be parents.
In her interview with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) on February 2019, Coleen related how she was constantly asked about having a baby barely a year after she and Billy Crawford tied the knot on April 20, 2018.
It seemed the concern was that Billy Crawford was nearing 40.
The actress told PEP.ph then, "Nape-pressure ako kasi parang everywhere I go, natatanong ako.
"And parang I thought I just got passed the whole, 'O, when are you getting married?' stage. Ngayon, 'When are you gonna have a child?' naman.
"Now, I realize I can't let people pressure me talaga. This has to be not just in my time, but in God's time."
So now, Coleen is nine months pregnant, but she's not done railing against the needling question: When willl you have a baby?
She said when interviewed by PEP.ph via e-mail last Monday, August 24, "This happened at the perfect time for us.
"But you can never be sure what anyone is going through.
"So, as tempting as it is to get ahead of ourselves over topics such as this, it’s best to maintain sensitivity, especially if we’re not close to that person.
"I understand that we can get curious and excited.
"But sometimes I don’t think it’s very considerate to ask other women about this unless you’ve already established a close enough relationship.
"And it also matters how you ask."
Coleen also conceded that part of being a celebrity is opening up to people's curiousity about them and she has no problem with that.
She said, "As for me and Billy, we are public figures and we love sharing bits and pieces of our lives with other people, so we enjoy sharing our journeys and stories as well.
"It’s expected for people to ask us questions like this because we welcome it."
However, Coleen firmly added, "It’s definitely never okay to pressure other people."
Ultimately, here's Coleen's nugget of advice to women who are pestered with pregnancy questions.
She said, "To the women who get pressured, it’s all in God’s time. Not other people’s, and sometimes not even ours.
"Enjoy every stage of your life, because when it does come, it will change your life forever, and it will definitely be worth the wait.
"That’s more than enough to hope for! And if you’re just not ready or you choose not to have kids at all, that’s also okay. Your journey is YOURS."