Conventional wisdom says it takes a village to raise a child.
What does it say about taking care of more than one?
Several mamas we know are raising a community of children.
We can name a few from showbiz— Amanda Griffin-Jacob, LJ Moreno-Alapag, and Joy Sotto.
They have their hands full looking after more than three kids, how do they handle it?
How do they give each kid equal time, love, and affection?
PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) asked these questions from the three celebrity moms during a recent kiddie event at Shangri-La the Fort.
Here are some nuggets of wisdom we picked up from their answers.
For starter, don’t be ashamed to ask for help, Amanda said.
She and her husband David Jacob have three adorable kids and a baby on the way.
“It’s chaotic,” the soon-to-be mother of four told PEP.ph, “Always a lot of fun, challenging. Never a dull moment.”
Already on her third month of pregnancy, Amanda admitted it has been her “most challenging” yet.
She said, “I think it has to do with, you know, I have three kids to look after now. I’m always tired, and I was very sick.”
Her solution was to ask for as much help as she could get.
Amanda said, “Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help or don’t feel like you’re being a bad mom.
“I was so sick, I needed all the help I could get, I just gave my kids to my husband.
“I mean, at that point, there was nothing else I could do. I was barely functioning.
“I did miss being with my kids, but I couldn’t take care of them at that point.
“Yeah, every little bit helps.”
Establish teamwork was the advice of LJ.
She and her cager husband Jimmy Alapag welcomed an addition to their family on October 23, 2017.
With three kids to take care of, LJ and Jimmy realized the importance of teamwork between them as parents.
LJ said, “With more kids talaga, it’s hard. Physically, mas mahirap.
“But yung joy, yung happiness of having another baby in the house is there.
“I try to make sure that I have time for each of them.
“When Kuya is at Taekwando, I spend time with the other one.
"Trina-try ko lang i-balance talaga, me and my husband.
“Big thing yung teamwork..."
For Joy, it’s one for all, all for one.
She described her day-to-day adventures as “a riot… the noisier, the better.”
With five kids under their wings, she and husband Gian Sotto have gotten around the difficulty of spending quality time with each child.
Joy remarked, “Actually, my husband and I, we really try to do yung parang one-on-one with each kid.
“It’s impossible to do it once a month na lahat sila, right?
“So parang once a month for each child. We try to do it that way.”
And when the family plans an outing, everybody goes.
“As much as possible, when we go out, it’s always kaming lahat sabay.
“Stay home if someone is sick.
“So, it’s always, all for one, one for all kami.”
In the Sotto household, the word favoritism is banned.
According to Joy, “We don’t use the word favorite at home.
"We don’t want to instill in their minds na meron kaming favorite.
“Though, minsan, hindi rin maiiwasan.
"Kasi may people na magtatanong, ‘Sino favorite mo?’ Maraming ganon.
“And so, we always say in front of the kids, ‘No, we have no favorites.
"'Mom and Dad love you the same.’”