Truth be told, being a mother is definitely not an easy task.
A woman's life changes immediately from the moment she finds out she's pregnant.
From then on, her life goes through a complete overhaul since she has a precious blessing to consider aside from her own interests.
GMA-7 actress Chynna Ortaleza also went through the same phase after she found out about her pregnancy to Baby Stellar, her daughter to husband Kean Cipriano.
"It's actually the exact combination of bitter and sweet," the 34-year-old actress admitted in an exclusive interview with PEP.ph (Philippine Entertainment Portal) during the birthday party of Isabel Oli's daughter, baby Feather Prats, last April 23 at the Blue Leaf Cosmopolitan, Quezon City.
She added, "I'd like to give you a showbiz answer and say, 'Oh yeah, it's the most fulfilling thing in the world, I'm so happy!'
"But the truth is, it's not naman talaga a walk in the park if you become a mom. It's a really challenging thing, you know."
Chynna also noted how moms like her undergo a lot of sacrifices for their children.
She told PEP, "Kumbaga, there are times na you wanna give up but at the same time, if you see your child happy and have this parang innate feeling na, 'Oh, I have to keep on going,' you know?
"And get through the challenges and actually deny yourself pretty much.
"Kasi yun lang naman yung parang nagiging balakid, yung parang there's a feeling of, 'Oh, I have to give myself some kind of like time or...'
"But the thing is, if you decide to become a mom, you really have to deny yourself of a lot of things. It's a call for self-denial pretty much."
STRUGGLES OF A WORKING MOM. One of the most recent struggles Chynna had to face as a first time mom was to balance her time with family while continuing with her showbiz work and her passion for acting.
After taking a break for over a year, Chynna is making a TV comeback via the Kapuso network's primetime fantaserye Mulawin VS Ravena. She was cast as one of the main antagonists, a Ravena Queen named Rashana.
Last April 18, Chynna took to Instagram to share her biggest dilemma: finding a "yaya na may puso at malasakit sa pamilya" to look out for her daughter while she and her husband are busy with work.
The Kapuso star felt that a lot of moms are also experiencing the same thing, which inspired her to share her sentiments about it online.
She narrated, "It's very challenging, e.
"Kasi right now... I have naman kasi a pretty good yaya but the thing is, of course, she also has personal needs.
"So kunyari nun, nagpaalam yung yaya ni Stellar ngayon na she wants to go home, e pretty much, you have to prepare yourself na they won't be coming [back] home.
"So it's difficult right now and the timing is weird because I'm just starting Mulawin.
"I was confident when the project came because I had a good person na nata-trust ko with my mom and kabisadong-kabisado na nila yung isa't isa—yung yaya ko at saka yung anak ko.
"But the thing is, yeah, may ganyan talagang nangyayari that's why nag-post ako [sa Instagram].
"I know kasi a lot of moms are going through the same thing. Definitely, I'm not alone because there are a lot of women who work now."
Working moms normally encounter times when they choose to become full-time moms and put their careers on-hold just to focus on their child.
Chynna said, "There are a lot of women who are empowered, but at the same time, they also find it difficult, e.
"Sometimes, you're left at a point in your life when you feel like, 'Should I choose one over the other?'
"Because it's the passion for my craft and the passion as a mom is...
"Di ko masabing pantay, pero very close.
"Of course, motherhood still takes precedence but the craft side, I miss so much.
"That's why sabi ko, 'Hindi, kaya naman 'yan!'
"Kasi it's not impossible. There are a lot of moms who can pull it off.
"So, nasa part lang ako siguro ng motherhood na kinasa sa akin, and now I try to do something about it, ganun."
Nevertheless, Chynna considers herself lucky to have her mom and in-laws to look after their daughter while they're away.
However, the she admits that she also feels guilty every time she has to leave her daughter to her mom.
"I'm lucky naman kasi that I have my mom who's really like super supportive, ever since naman.
"And anything that I did in my life, she was so supportive especially with my child.
"I know that if she was much younger, I wouldn't need a yaya, that's for sure, because my mom is such a strong woman.
"But siyempre, she's already in her sixties and I feel like she gets tired.
"Doon pumapasok yung guilt ko na parang I shouldn't leave her [Stellar] with my mom 'cause my mom is not strong enough to run after her.
"But because my parents are there and Kean's mom is there naman to always provide support, at least we know na we can still find time for work and they can watch Stellar for us."
FROM ONE MOM TO ANOTHER. PEP also asked Chynna a few tips for first-time moms who are also experiencing the same struggles.
Her first tip: trust God.
"This is the time you really need to really kumbaga trust that God got your daughter or your son," she advised.
"There are things that will really be out of your control and you just have to support yourself with prayers because you know, ano naman yan e, kumbaga masosolusyunan at masosolusyunan."
She also reminded moms not to overthink or worry too much.
As she explained, "Don't worry too much, and yeah, I know it's difficult but you have to make things lighter for everybody, because your child will definitely feel that things are heavy if you project that kind of aura."
For her next tip, Chynna advises moms to trust their kid's judgement when it comes to picking a trustworthy yaya.
The Mulawin VS Ravena actress elaborated, "For moms who are very OC or maselan, of course, your're a mom but if you find somebody who your daughter likes, then you have to adjust your standards also, so that at least you find a person who'll take care of your daughter.
"Yun naman ang importante dun, yung cue ng bata.
"It's not really your cue, it's the cue of your child. If your child is happy with your nanny then, trust that you found a pretty good nanny for her."