Men fantasizing about women outside of their relationship is "very normal."
This was put forward by Slater Young in his recent SkyPodcast show uploaded on YouTube on Tuesday, May 9, 2023.
The Pinoy Big Brother alum co-hosts the show with his wife, content creator Kryz Uy.
Slater was reacting to a story from a listener who lamented about her boyfriend's behavior.
The anonymous letter read, “My boyfriend is fantasizing about other women, is that bad, or am I crazy?
“He now labels me as isip-bata or crazy.
"We have debated every now and then about his infidelity.
"I never caught him in person or being physical with a girl.
"But I caught some chats with his tropa where they fantasize about women with big butts and breasts, and even joking about f***ing with certain girls.”
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"IT'S JUST A FACT OF LIFE"
Reacting to the letter, Slater remarked that the guy was just being upfront with his girlfriend, saying, “The guy is being absolutely honest."
He elaborated, “Kasi siyempre, if I’m going to lie to you, and you ask me if I have boners about other women and if I wanted to lie just to make you comfortable, I’m just gonna say, ‘No, of course not.’
"Kryz and I talk about that. It’s normal.
"It’s just a fact of life that there are many other women more attractive than you or just as attractive than you.”
For Slater, there was nothing wrong with fantasizing about another person if there was no intent to act on one's desire.
He said, based on his personal experience, “Yung mga groups na nagse-send ng mga photos of girls and like fantasizing over it, it’s normal.
"We have a lot of chat groups with friends, not necessarily dedicated to that.
"From time to time, usually comes from dalawa or tatlong tao na mahilig mag-send nang ganyan.
"May mga comment-comment pa. Siyempre ikaw, as part of that group and as a guy, sakyan mo lang."
He underlined, "Wala naman. Hindi mo naman gusto talaga.
Citing a hypothetical conversation between male friends, he pointed out, 'This porn star looks like this celebrity,' and you’ve sent a certain naked photo, hindi naman ibig sabihin na, 'Uy, may erection ako.'"
PEACE OF MIND
Kryz, meanwhile, said during the same episode that it was not her habit to check Slater's mobile phone to read private messages.
“To protect my peace, I’ve never looked at your group chats. Ever," Kryz told her husband.
"I never intentionally went to your phone and was like, ‘I’m gonna look for this group. I know that they send stuff.’
"But I’m like, bakit pa? Wala naman siyang ginagawa in person."
Likewise, Kryz said that her friends would also occasionally send photos in chat groups of men they find attractive.
Kryz said, “Similar to [Slater], I have a chat group with my friends.
"Some of them are single then they’ll send cute guy photos. Alangan namang di ako mag-reply, e, di crickets yung group chat."
Continued Kryz, “Scientifically, I think it’s just different because guys are innately ‘rawr’ compared to girls.
"That is just the nature of things. As long as your boyfriend is not cheating, okay lang yan. Sakyan mo lang!"
CONDONING INFIDELITY
While some agreed with the couple's viewpoints, there were also those who finds their thoughts on the subject disturbing.
Some netizens called out both Slater and Kryz for considering such behavior normal "when they are clearly unacceptable."
Others accused Slater of tolerating infidelity and encouraging men to disrespect women by treating them as mere sex objects.
A netizen commented, "Lalaki pa naman mga anak nila tapos ganon mag-isip yung ama. Si Kryz Uy kailan kaya gigising?"
Slater and Kryz have two kids named Scottie and Sevi.
The couple tied the knot on February 16, 2019, in a garden wedding ceremony in Cebu.